Is It true, That men that are not happy in a marriage stay for the kids sake.?

Answer 1

Some men stay for the kids and women do it too... It's not a healthy choice to make because kids see and hear more than you think they do...

Answer 2

Most people, both men and women, stay in marriages they aren't happy with. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Of the other half......half of those both partners aren't happy.
That means only 25% of marriages, roughly, are happy marriages. The rest either end in divorce or stay unhappy.
There are a lot of reasons men (and women) stay in unhappy marriages. I'd think, at least for the case of men, they aren't staying in them "for the kids' sake" although they may use that as a convenient excuse. Divorce is just not as stigmatizing on kids as it once was, it's so common.
Probably the biggest reason people stay married when they'd rather not is economic, which drives much of what we do. I would secretly like a divorce. I'm a schoolteacher and I live in a conservative community and it would cost me, but if that was not the case, I would consider one further. However.......a divorce is just so danged costly. Not just the lawyers and the court fees, but also because you don't have that spouse there to help with income, etc. Neither party lives as well after the divorce, economically, as you're now trying to support 2 households instead of one. It's just easier to hobble along secretly unhappy for year after year. At least you know this person and trust them and they help support you in life and you help support them. It's easier, and then you also have to factor in that working to get along is easier on your kids than splitting. If we fought, however, divorce would be easier on the kids. It's just easier to find ways to continue to get along and continue to be unfulfilled.

Answer 3

Both husbands and wives often think about staying for the kids. You'll see a lot of posts about couples needing to to what they need to do and the kids just have to accept it.
I think that's a lot of bull. My mantra is that unless there is abuse or cheating, couples should really work through a marriage with kids. Once the kids are grown, then the couples are on their own and can think of separation or divorce.
I think couples w/kids who divorce or get into situations where they end up cheating and then divorce are just losers.
Kids can really be the glue in a relationship.
All relationships have their ups and downs, kids can hold it together in the down times. Problem with today's couples is that they live in fairy tale land and want forever good times.

Answer 4

Maybe some men . I know I would not even for kids . The kids will be ruined anyway if you stay and always fighting . I want to be happy to . Sometimes though it does work to stay couples do make up . I would not say dont give it a try .

Answer 5

Yes. A lot of men have heard the stories from their divorced buddies about how they can hardly live on what is left after the child support, and some stay because they don't want to be away from their kids. I have a brother in this exact situation.

Answer 6

This is true, not only in marriage but in relationships without the marriage part. This seem to be the cause in the older or more matural men though. A true sign of this is, does he seem to pay more attention to you or the kid and by what degree.

Answer 7

That happens to both men and women. Kids play a great role in deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage.

Answer 8

If a person is not happy in the marriage and has done everything they can to make the marriage work and the other person will not give a inch then get out.

Answer 9

it goes both way, there are many men and many women that will stay in a marriage for the kids sake...unforntaully this isnt a good deal you want your child to see a loving family not one who's fighting, they dont need to think that's normal.

Answer 10

for men and women the answer sadly is yes, but the kids still suffer for it because the do not have a happy home, just make believe