Who has unproffesional conduct? me or them?

Question

I'll make this short, was job hunting for better pay,more hrs. First interview, was hired by "XYZ"but have to work sat(which I dislike)but accepted offer, gone to more interviews to find the "right"one for me, day before I was to start @XYZ,I called to decline offer (bec. of sat.hours)and also had lots of interviews lined up, 2-3 weeks later, declined 2 more offers and decided to go with XYZ again, (husband&wife medical practice)I called to ask if they found someone, so I was to start there 2weeks, When I resigned, I resolved issues w/current employer and decided "happily"to stay.So for 2nd time, I called to cancel the job, they were furious,wife called me at my work and was screaming her head off, saying Im unprofessional, that they let someone go bec.of me, That she will contact my employer and tell them what I have done!!So do they have right to contact my employer, I feel bad for doing that to them, tried to explain but she wouldnt hear of it./Is it their right to call my boss?

Answer 1

You were unprofessional, but no they don't have the right to call your current employer and by doing so they are looking really unprofessional themselves. Let your current employer about the impending call, just explain that you were job hunting but your glad that things worked out and you could stay where you are, but that there's an angry lady who is going to call you because of so and so.

With that said, you really should have tried to work things out with your employer before canceling twice and keeping this other job in suspense. They probably did let someone go and because of you they were left understaffed. They should be mad, but don't have the right do harass you. No biggie, you live ,you learn, etc.

Answer 2

They are a small husband and wife medical practice - so rescinding your job offer twice not only was unprofessional on your part, it caused a lot of disruption for their business.

She may have threatened to call your employer but it probably was said at the heat of the moment. She doesn't have the right to do that. But even if she called, what would happen? Your employer already knows that you've tried to leave but have resolved issues to entice you to stay. So your employer may not care what this woman may have to say (especially if she continues to be hysterical).

Best of luck with your current job. If you find another job again, don't jerk your potential employer again...it's a small world after all!

Answer 3

Buy law they cannot tell any boss or a future hiring boss anything bad about an employee. Its called Slander and deformation of character. Because of them you could loose out on a lot. People can actually go to court over this. Personally I believe that you shouldt bail on them twice. Thats immature no offense. Its bad character. You should never burn any bridges. If they let you come back after declining, then you should have beed greatfull. They did you a favor. Bailing on them again, wasnt cool. You probably should have never called them back if you wernt 100% or wait there for a while. Dont go with your first option, you never know what you will get. ALways look for a better job, but never burn bridges. It DOES NOT LOOK GOOD to be jumping from job to job. Stay at one place for at least a year.

Answer 4

You should have had a clear vision of what your plans were before you started to seek other employment. It was not proper for you to take the job and then decline it twice. You were immature and a fool, but at the same time, they do not have the right to call your employer. If they do call, and only speak the truth in regards to the situation, then you have no recourse in terms of slander.

Answer 5

I understand how you could change your mind, thats your right. I understand where XYZ would be upset as well, they needed some one thought you were the one. To call your employer and bad mouth you thats very unprofessional and highly doubt they would do that cause that would be a law suit on them. I think she was very upset and was just venting.

Don't get me wrong though. You were wrong to jerk them around like that you.

Answer 6

I have to say, I can understand her frustration. I am surprised that XYZ actually gave you a second chance to take the job. However, once they did, you should have taken the job. I don't know about unprofessional, but it was very inappropriate! You cost them time and money.

Calling you and threatening you was wrong also.

Answer 7

How would you feel if you quit your job and then, just before you were to start, they said they changed their mind and weren't going to hire you?

Do they have a right to call your employer? No.
Might they do it anyway? Yes.
Does your employer have a right to know that they have an employee who's word is meaningless and can't be trusted? Definitely!

Answer 8

you were both unprofessional. you should not accept a job offer unless you intend to follow through and she should not have called you making threats to tell your current employer. she does not have the right to interfere with your current job and could quite possibly find herself in legal trouble if she does.

Answer 9

If you checked the box that said they can contact your employer than they can. You should have figured out what was best for you before you made any decisions and put them in a bad situation. Good luck.

Answer 10

Well - You would win the prize. You do not know what you want and that is apparent. Twice, they made a commitment to you and if they had broken that commitment, you would have ranted and raved similar to the lady. Shae was mad and she had a right to be mad. Should she call the old boss, no. She probably won't but wanted to spout off.