How do you fall in love again after marriage?

Answer 1

Research finds that, on the average, it takes about seven years for true, lasting love to happen again. Those, of course, were qualitative studies based on people recounting their personal experiences. Relationships sooner than that may feel extraordinary and passionate, but they are less sustainable and more likely to last only a short while. How does one EVER fall in love? It's about being healthy and balanced enough to be able to make harmonious music with another being. If we are "out of tune" ourselves, we will make only noise and sour music with someone else and the relationship will not soar into the beauty of harmony. By focusing on ourselves after marriage, by living sensibly and gaining excellent health and vitality and a positive outlook in life as an individual, we are most likely to make the beautiful music of love once again with someone else.

Answer 2

Concentrate on finding a deep friendship, and see what happens. You just cannot force it.

When I divorced, I read that it takes as much as half the length of the marriage to recover sufficiently to re-connect. This proved true for me. It takes less time if you lost your spouse through death and had a good marriage, because you know how a good relationship can be, and the healing you need to do is different.

Good luck to you. I found it, and hope you can, too.

Answer 3

Depends. It is different for everyone. If you are married, however, and feel like you are not "in love" anymore, it is highly recommended that you go to marriage counseling. There is no magic formula someone can post here, but a professional counselor can listen to your specific needs, help you identify your individual issues, and help you develop realistic, practical, and case-specific strategies for putting the spice back into your love. No one here can do that. It is well worth the time and money! The love CAN come back. Good luck!

Answer 4

It just happens. I fell in love with the man I'm with now for three years. I was married for about 4 years before but had been with the man for about 9 years. You will know it when it happens.

Answer 5

i had to give myself time to heal. i was hurt badly for a long time in the relationship that ultimately ended in divorce (as many people are, i'm sure).

i think too many people rush into dating again, wanting to "get back out there" bc of lonliness, or proving to themselves that they can. i think this is bound to lead to disaster.

i had to come to realize the part i played in my failed relationship, learn to forgive him, and finally to close the chapter & move on. it took 2 years. but when i decided to start dating again, love found me... the kind in story books, the kind that makes you crumble & makes a strong man say "hi baby, i love you" every day & makes a hard-a** like me giddy.

give yourself time to heal... don't get into another relationship until you are ready to let go of the past hurts.

Answer 6

You and your spouse should go on dates and if the kids are grown and gone ....at least 3 times a week.