My wife refused to wish me a happy fathers day...what does this mean?

Question

I have a daughter from a previous relationship, and I was hinting to my wife that it is fathers day. I told her about my family wishing me a happy fathers day. She wouldn't wish me one. She said that since my daughter is not her flesh and blood, she had no place wishing me a happy fathers day, and she would not. I was so angry with her, not because she didn't say "happy fathers day", but for her reasoning for not saying. Am I being petty, or is she right?

Answer 1

You are a father so she shold hve atleast wished you a happy day. You shouldn't expect a present because you are not the father of her children, but she could have at least wished you a happy day. What a biotch!

Answer 2

Fathers Day Wishes From Wife

Answer 3

I wouldn't say that you are being petty, but you certainly were hurt I am sure. Some people don't believe that they should wish someone who isn't a father to them "Happy Father's Day" in some cases including children from another marriage. She probably meant that is wasn't her place to say that to you, it was your daughters. But I guess it didn't come out that way. The way we see it in our family is if your a father then we wish you "Happy Father's Day" Hope you were able to have a nice one.

Answer 4

Depends. You are probably right that they were just excuses, but there may be a good reason for it. How was her relationship with your father? How is her relationship with other relatives that would be there? Maybe one of them sexually harassed her and she is afraid to bring it up. Maybe they put her down or give her dirty looks. Maybe your father didn't like her and told her so, and she does not want to sully his name now that he is dead. Who knows? The point is this: there is a reason she did this. Find out what that reason is. It may well be the key to your ability to maintain a successful relationship here. Once you know why she did it, THEN you may or may not have a reason to feel hurt and betrayed. Then it may be time to try marriage counseling. But talk to her about all this, first. If you can't talk about this, then you've got a bigger problem than your wife not going to a funeral with you. Good luck!

Answer 5

Sounds like she has a little green eyed monster in her. She should have wished you a happy fathers day, as you are a true father!! I didn't wish my husband a happy fathers day, he has 3 kids from a previous marriage and 1 with me, but the circumstances were understandable. We have done away with Mothers Day and Fathers Day, as my father passed away violently on Mothers day and the hurt is too fresh to worry about fathers day.

Answer 6

There may be a few things at play here. She may be embarassed because she feels a really petty jealousy towards the connection you have with this other woman. She had to tell you something and what she said is the best she could come up with even though it was weak.

She may also want children of her own, and wants you to focus on giving her those children. She may not like the way you treat your child either. What is good enough for one woman may not be good enough for her. You need to tell her how you feel, but you should not expect a gift from her either. It's not her place.

Her not even being willing to say the words "Happy Father's day" speaks to the content of her character, and you need to look much deeper. Talk and try and understand her reluctance.The true answer will only come from sharing your feelings and allowing her to share hers.

You're only seeing the surface

Answer 7

She's is being a little petty and should have wish you a Happy Father's Day but there maybe something that is holding her back like maybe she wants a child with you or she resents your relationship with your ex or daughter. She's jealous and acting like a child. Is she a mother?
I would say sit her down tell her how you feel and hope she see that she is being petty and hurtful.
Good Luck

Answer 8

How tasteless. You're a father, period. Absolute strangers wish fathers Happy Father's Day on that day, why can't your bloody wife? It's selfish, petty, and hebetudinous of her to act like that. If a perfect stranger has every right to wish you good will of the day, then she obviously has a bit more.

As for all of these women who didn't wish fathers Happy Father's Day to the fathers in their lives (the ones who had kids before they had them together), go look for a Father's Day card and tell me how many male relatives are listed there. They have everything from Stepfather to brother-in-law to Happy Father's day from the cat or dog, don't try to defend it with, "the child's not mine so I don't have to say it." It's a courtesy, and just because the child isn't yours doesn't erase the fact that it exists, and thus makes him pater, baba, chichi-we, otets, pere, vati...essentially FATHER to someone.

Happy belated Father's Day to you, sir. You are quite justified in your feelings.

Answer 9

I am a mother so I know that these days are about feeling appreciated regardless of who the child belongs to you are a father and you wife should appreciate that fact. I would start to wonder if all of the angst was due to the two of you not having children together or if it deep down really bothers her that you have this huge connection with another woman. But regardless you deserve the thought and the support of your spouse. Isnt that what they are there for? Happy belated Fathers Day.

Answer 10

SHE is being petty, thoughtless, arrogant, childish, and narrow minded! What a twit!

We celebrate Father's day for my husband, even though he's not my son's father. And I am willing to bet that you send HER father a card, even though he's not YOUR father. And my husband celebrates Mother's day with/for me, even though we have no children together.

Hell, I even wished my father's neighbor a happy day because I know he's a dad!

The point I'm getting at is regardless of WHERE the child came from, you are STILL a father, and she was totally out of line --especially in her reasoning. WOW....I cannot believe how selfish people get!