Hi, by considence i found out that my best friend is inlove with me. The problem is that i don't share the same feeling for him, I don't like him at all, al list not for be his girlfriend. Should I end our frienship to evoite him because now that I know that i feel inconfortable around him or when I talk to him. Please answer my question!! I don't know what to do! Should I end it? or tell him that I fount out? please tell me what should i do in this situation??
2007-06-18 08:41:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think you should end your friendship. Some of the best, longest, romantic relationships grow out of friendship. Be kind to him, and continue to be his friend. Be a true friend to him. Loyal, honest, kind, supportive. You don't need to tell him what you heard unless he asks or brings it up, and if he does, you can tell him that you value his friendship way too much to jeopardize it with romance. You would be lost without his friendship, and when romance fails, it's too hard to back up and be friends again.
2007-06-18 08:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by leslie b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's a pretty personal question for an outsider to try to answer. That being said however, I'll do my best.
I really think you should confront him about this situation and tell him how you feel. Ask him if he is still comfortable being friends even if you never end up as a couple. Let him have a say as to the outcome of the situation. If you do stay friends (and I think friendship is hard to come by and should not just be thrown away because of a flaw), in time everything will work itself out.
Good Luck
2007-06-18 15:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by passion4piercings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely postitve that he likes you this much? Just think realistically about whether you are reading into this a little too much. It depends on how you found out, but I wouldn't tell him you found out or confront him in any way. It's probably just a crush that will pass like any other crush. Just be patient and wait it out. Also, don't give him any reason to think you like him back. If he doesn't get over it, he'll probably make a move and tell you. At this point, you have to be VERY direct with him. Tell him you like him as a friend but nothing more than that. Give him some time to think about it.
I hope everything works out okay, and you can keep your friend. (: )
Good Luck!!!!
2007-06-18 16:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by h_o_r_s_e_n_u_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk openly with your friend. ask him if he likes you because maybe you got wrong information. if his answer is no, your problem is solved. if his answer is yes... here's what i would do. i would let him know that i love him but as a brother or friend not as a potential boyfriend. he would feel upset probably, but lighten the situation by asking how he feels about that. i think he might feel hurt and upset so i would tell him that he'd always be my friend. for the next few seconds it might be awkward so be like, i have to go. i think from then on you should act like nothing happened. don't draw attention to the subject because it might make him feel uncomfortable. in the end if your meant to stay friends...you will
2007-06-18 15:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by alexa♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation except my best friend just flat out told me he was in love with me. I was honest with him and just told him that i didnt feel that same way, and that i really cared about our friendship and didnt want anything to change with us, but i understood if he wanted to distance himself with me if it was to hard to be friends. We stayed friends and he got over it. It sounds like your friend hasnt even said anything to you about it, so i would just let it go. He is your friend after all so i would just act like u didnt know and continue the friendship. If he comes out and tells you then just be honest with him. It will only make u guys better friends in the end.
2007-06-18 15:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't end your friendship because he likes you. just do things like you never found out and get a boyfriend. just don't rub it into him or he'll make a move or end your friendship. if he does make a move, pollitely explain to him that you just want to be friends and how much your glad to have him as a friend.
2007-06-18 15:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that you'd feel more comfortable being your friend right now and that i hope this doesn't effect our friendship.
2007-06-18 15:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by always&forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋