He says his job is on the line- so why take the day off? He goes to her house by himself a couple times a week, and once a week he takes me and blows off date night.
2007-06-18 08:16:07 · 8 answers · asked by northville 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in a similar situation. I'd fix Thanksgiving dinner and he'd take it to his mom's and spend it with her while me and the kids ate alone because these were kids from my first marriage. During the marriage ceremony I made sure the "Cleave to your wife and leave your parents behind' was kept in. It made little difference.
Call his mom and tell her and your husband to come and spend the day with your son. I'm assuming this is a child from a previous marriage. Tell her that you'd enjoy it if she could come (LIE). That you're husband is missing his son's birthday and it's hurting your son's feelings. Tell it straight. Now if this is the father/grandmother of the child I'd be more than majorly po'd that they're both blowing off your son's/grandson's birthday. As everyone is always telling me. He will not know unless you tell him.
2007-06-18 08:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by rosies42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he is a mommy boy. He should be spending his time with his son on his birthday. I would ask him who was more important his family or his Mother. Now, this a tricky question because she is his Mother, but also when he married you he should leave everyone else behind per say and bring you and his children first. No wife should be second best to their Mother-in-law or any other woman for that fact.
2007-06-18 15:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first glance, that seems weird. I'm sure there is good reason for this-ask him. Say "We missed you today. Is your mom OK? I was worried something might be wrong since you didn't spend "child's" birthday with us." Does she live by herself? At some other point, say, "Maybe we could find another night to go out since your mom needs us on "whaterverday's". Tread lightly. It's his mom.
2007-06-18 15:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont know, ask him. Are you worried that he is spending too much time with his mother? Is she older, in ill health? Perhaps he is trying to be a good son. You do need to talk to him and let him know how this is making you feel.
2007-06-18 15:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I are very close to both of his parents. If its too much, you guys need to talk. I totally agree with changing date night. There is a break down in communication somewhere. Take care of it nicely.
2007-06-18 15:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world. My husband spends every day for hours at his mothers house. And when he takes time off of work, it's to spend time with her. She is the other woman I cannot compete with.
2007-06-18 15:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mommy still comes first, wake up, as fed flag is flying right in front of you!!!!
2007-06-18 17:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
double dipping oh yeah X-)
2007-06-18 15:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋