how can you tell if porn.....?

Question

has been viewed on your computer?

i dont' need you telling me to give him a break...it's my marriage and my decision so buzz off you perverts.

Answer 1

Check the history

Answer 2

Yes you can look at history and temp internet files. Most likely he is deleting these off of the computer. You can enable Content limits on your computer that will block out adult content. Set a password that he cannot solve. I have to tell you though, that if he is determined to see and view porn he will find a way. I believe that the fact that you suspect him and it bothers you there are some key problems that need to be discussed. Out of respect for my wife I would never look at porn. We have a understanding that neither of us would disrespect one another. I do not want her lusting after other men and I understand her feelings. You both need to sit down and talk and make it clear that pornography is not acceptable to you and that it bothers you. It is not good that you suspect him and it is worrying you. Trust is a essential part of any relationship. The fact that your trust has been compromised is not good.

1. Talk to him and explain your feelings
2. Make it clear that it is not acceptable
3. Go ahead and set the limits on the computer-eliminate the possibility and put your mind at ease
4. ask him if there is something missing in the relationship
5. be open and honest

I believe that often porn is a form of escapism and is a good indicator that it might be time to spice things up if you are in a runt. I know that most couples expeince a low point in the romance with pregnancy. Love making is not as easy. Some men get stupid and do not communicate or have a understanding. Having children is a life changing event.Talk openly and maybe come up with your fantasies that fall within reason. I believe that you want to take any potential energy being put outside of the relationship and bring it back. as a man I can tell you that you have nothing to lose by coming up with your own romantic ideas. Let hime know that all the passion he can imagine can be had when you feel that there is trust and love in the relationship, He needs to do his part. Make it clear that need to have your feelings respected. If he truly loves you he will respect and honor your relationship and do the right thing. You are right that you should not simply accept that he will do it and you should be ok with it. The problem with porn is that it is addictive and it taints the normalcy of what sex and love making should be. Good sex in a relationship is bulit on trust. There must be trust between the 2 of you and right now he does not have your full trust. Trust is earned and I would be honest and let him know that right now you are not trusting him.As your marriage progresses and you have children there has to be a level patience and understanding. The romance will be more difficult and he must be satisified with you as the woman that you are. Tell him that the romance and the passion will be there and he must be patient. Porn is not the answer to improve your marriage. He has to understand that.
Best of luck. I know that you will be successful. Stick to your guns.

Answer 3

First of all - dont listen to any of the idiots on here who say there is nothing wrong with porn. Pornography rips hundreds of families apart every year. It causes demoralization of women, it makes sex all about HIM. It creates an impossible standard to live up to. It creates a fantasy world that isn’t reality. And lastly whether woman realize it or not – it has the potential to completely destroy a marriage. Porn is NOT ok.

You can find it by looking in the history or the temporary files. If he's good at erasing his tracks unplug the computer and take it to a computer shop to have it analyzed. And then let him know that you will not put up with it.

Good luck

Answer 4

Go into Temporary Internet Files folder, or the History...

When I found out my husband was lying about it I just looked and looked around my computer till I found it...

I think if you search in google for "finding internet history on computer" you should be able to find something

Answer 5

Check the cache, history, cookies, downloads and look for hidden bookmarks in the bookmarks area. The bookmark may say one thing (harmless - car repair), but linked to something else (porn - chubby chasers).

Answer 6

check your cookies and search history. you can also try a search on windows and use keywords that are usually in porn titles like barely legal, free porn, and adult, ect. i have turned up things from years ago doing that.

Answer 7

If the computer has every been turned on porn has been seen on it. The definition of porn is so subjective that anything can be considered porn.

Answer 8

You can't if he knows how to erase the history, and it's not all that hard to delete cookies either. If I don't make a big deal of it, it doesn't become something he needs to lie about.

Answer 9

ever heard of "history kills" its a software where files can be deleted and you can never find out where has he been.
and ask for him viewing porn i think you should talk things out with your man if it affects u that much

Answer 10

dear,
if he watches porn , then something is missing in u that and that something is given by a porn movie.

so you can stop porn being watched by only one possible way .
give it .

as for knowing files viewed in a computer .its not always possible. if the history,cookies, recent documents ,temporary internet files folder contents, porn movie files themselves were deleted and recycle bin emptied, theres no way to trace if porn was viewed.