i am in a relationship with a man whom i have already had a kid by. he told me he would marry me so i believed him and know i am pregnant by him again. i am so hurt cause i am only 20yrs old. i want to get out this relationship with him but i am scared no one else is going to want me cause i have two kids. is ti possible for a single young lady to find true love with 2 kids?
2007-06-18 07:03:43 · 23 answers · asked by URSULA J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do not live your life in fear of someone not wanting you. Your kids are a blessing and if you need to get out of this relationship then do so. There is someone out there who will love you and those kids as their own. Don't let him or anyone else tell you to settle for a relationship that is not good for you or your kids. Be Blessed my sister. Your steps are ordered by GOD and nothing you have done is out of order with him. Rest assured that you will be OK.
2007-06-18 07:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by alfredapittman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is possible, but it will take a special guy. I will say your only 20 so right now you should focus on your young child and unborn baby. I’m sure eventually a good man will come into your life who will love your kids as his own. Your young you have all the time in the world to find Mr. Right.
Of course in today’s world you want to be carefully who you choose to date even more when you have children. That poor 2 ½ boy who was killed by his mothers boyfriend.
2007-06-18 07:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter?
I am confused as to why you want out of this relationship when just a few months ago, you chose to become pregnant with this man's child.
I am confused as to why you would actually stay in a relationship that you want to leave, just to avoid being alone.
You would rather be in a bad relationship than happy & on your own? Do you think you need a man in your life in order to be happy & fulfilled? You don't.
A good relationship is great, if you have one - really adds to your life in unimaginable ways. But, it's better to be alone & happy than to be in a bad relationship. At least you are then free to start a new relationship if one should come your way.
Of course, either way, you will be tied to this man for 18 or more years now, as you co-parent your children. But, that's manageable.
2007-06-18 07:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im 22yrs old and I dont have kids but I've been with my bf for 4 years and he has 4 kids. I accept them as if they were/are mine. You'll probably have some trouble finding true love but it's not impossible. My cousin has 4 kids from different men and she is happily married to a man that doesnt have any kids. He accepted the kids too. Everyone is different. Good Luck!
2007-06-18 07:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you will find someone that treats you and your kids like gold! There are alot of men who are attracted to women who have kids because they love kids and love the liveliness and everything that comes with it. If your not happy in this relationship get out of it and get happy. Life is too short (or too long) to be with a crappy man!
P.S. Where do you think the term "MILF" came from? Not childless chics!!!!
2007-06-18 07:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just beacuse you have kids,regardless of how many,doesn't mean your doomed to the single life.I've met a woman with seven kids and she has a husband that didn't father any of them.
I know exactly how you feel...leave, and don't look back.
and it might take awhile for you to find someone, but they will come.
plus, with kids, it make the selection process a little easier because only losers won't accept a gal with kids...
i hope everything goes well, and good luck with the kids!
hugs and kisses to the litlle ones!
mama j
2007-06-18 07:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mama JK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a ton of guys that date women with kids. Admittedly, there are a few like myself who wouldn't, but that's just me.
The problem you have his that your current guy will be apart of your life forever. Those are his kids and if he wants to be around and be a father he has every right to do so. Any guy you get has to respect and understand that.
2007-06-19 03:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are a God-fearing young woman, but you should always remember to ask God is this is what he wants for your life. You should give the problem to him, let him guide you. Don't pester him with worry, just leave to him and you can never be lead astray. Don't let marriage be a leash that you are kept on because of fear.
2007-06-18 07:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Afrodite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the men love kids yes.
2007-06-18 07:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by Xiao G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is somone out there for everyone. Someone will love you no matter what. My cousin has 5 kids by 5 different babies daddies. and now she is marring someone not any of he men she has slpet with previously.
2007-06-18 07:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie6190904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋