What are your reasons why you may have low self-esteem or feel useless?

Question

Be specfic on your reasons please. Very curious= may be answered by both male and females. Thanks :o)

Answer 1

One you in some way everyday tell yourself are was told by other people negative things such as you are stupid, not pretty, your a loser etc. So you everyday internalize instead of turning it into a positive it because negative poison. The solution I can give you is to do things that make you are life seem worth wild some thing you like like listening to music and dancing to it even if you don't feel like it. Going into a store and trying on clothes that you may not buy but will make you look and feel beautiful. Place yourself around people who tell you positive things not negative. And for the negative people who say negative things to you tell them they say those things because they are ugly inside as well as out and it shows.

Answer 2

(female, since my icon is androgynous) Right now I feel a tad overweight...I may or may not be clinically overweight, I don't know. (5"2, 123 lbs.) Other than that though I feel pretty good about myself right now...I used to worry that I wasn't smart enough, or that I should have some more diverse talents than I do, but I had a good last few months so, at least for now, I'm happier. My only personality-based worry is that I haven't had very many interesting experiences yet, lots of my experiences seem standard, like, my classmates and friends have had very similar things happen to them at some point...but, after all, I am only 14 so the interesting parts are probably still ahead.

Answer 3

From the first day of Kindergarten, I was picked on by other kids--for being overweight and shy. I was targeted through my entire school experience. I didnt have any friends in school and was always fearful of getting beat up on a daily basis. I never had any dates in high school and was told I was ugly by MANY boys. If you have that kind of negative stuff being thrown at you on a daily basis, you start to believe it (even though my parents always tried to boost my self esteem). It totally made me feel like I was abnormal and my self esteem was in the gutter.

It has taken years to get to the point right now where I feel comfortable with myself. Age does help in that respect. However, sometimes that stuff creeps back into my head and can bring me down. It's something you learn to deal with, but that kind of hurtful stuff doesn't go away. But, I'm still here and kicking, so that is a good thing. :)

That's my story. :)

Answer 4

Hard question.
There could be many reasons for that.
We are really small in this world and when things don't go the way we would like we might feel depressed.
We all have a reason why we are here and sooner or later we realize that.
when I'm depressed I do this:
I go to a park by myself and observe animals or people specially little kids it's very relaxing. I try to talk to God and ask for help then I askfor strenght to overcome this feelings or problems and continue with my life.
Hope this was useful! :)

Answer 5

everyone has their own reasons for feeling a certain way. u never know what someone may be going through. I've never felt useless, and i dealt with esteem issue back in junior high. who didn't? everyone felt uncomfortable because of the changes they go through. i was fortunate enough to realize that it's what's inside my head that counts. I really am okay with me. There is nothing wrong. I don't know what u are going through, but u have to learn how to make it on the broken pieces. You have something valuable to give the world...

Answer 6

I just always feel I could look prettier - I have the potential, I'm not ugly, but don't have the effort to put in every day to doing my hair, make-up, coordinating accessories to my outfit. Some days I'm lazy, and would prefer to sleep in longer. It sucks when your co-worker in the office across the hall always looks well put together and glam no matter what, and you're like: yeah, headband and ponytail today!

Answer 7

my ideas on possible reasons are...
You have been emotionally abused...called names or treated badly by parents, sibling, peers...
or
You watch tv and look at magazines and compare yourself to those people....people who aren't even real
or
You, or your family, are having some troubles and you are being very self criticle and blaming yourself ...
or
Something bad has happened, or a number of bad things have happened, and you are blaming yourself ....
or
You are having problems with depression which causes people to not recognize their worth and what things they do well....for example, someone with depression may make good grades or be really good at something..but he or she doesn't recognize it...in fact, if you talked to someone who is depressed, you would never know what they have done well because they would tell you they don't do anything well.

I hope this is helpful...mostly, I'd recommend a good friend and pursuing goals that matter to you... also, I'd go outdoors and have fun and never watch tv alone...or not watch period

Answer 8

my mom always criticized me....i am a little overweight and she always drew attention to my arms now even in the summer i feel i have to wear something to cover me up

Answer 9

parents treated me as if i was, but especially my father who never give me any self-respect, but now i'am in my mid twenties i am trying to change that.