Good way to spice up a non existent sex life?

Question

How do we start over?

Answer 1

Lingerie.
Oils.
Lotions.
Porn.
Sexy love letters/emails.
Surprises.
New positions.
Sex toys.
If that doesn't work, then maybe you just aren't sexually compatible.

Answer 2

Okay, before I answer your question, I'll preface this with the fact that I'm a bit of a dork, but I still think roleplaying could work. It worked for me.
I went to a bar and pretended to be alone after a hard day's work. My other half (pretending not to know me) casually strolled over and got himself a drink. I was dressed up really sexy, of course, and I started flirting with him like I didn't know him. I came on kind of strong and he ended up "taking me home." It was great because I felt enough like my real self to be comfortable, but enough of a hot new fling to make it exciting and to give me confidence to do the kinds of "sexy" and "aggressive" things I wouldn't normally do. He loved it, and it was a great story for us to share with each other and laugh about later. It was a good re-bonding experience, and sort of a vicarious way to live out certain ways of life that only sometimes seem appealing, lol.

Answer 3

You are a woman with a non existent sex life.
I guess having sex would then spice things up.
How about something simple. Get naked lay on top of your bed and yell, "Honey, I need you help in here!"

When he/she enters the room you tell them exactly what you need. I mean be direct and detailed.

WARNING:
If you are a man this will not work.

Answer 4

Get in the jacuzzi with some champagne. When your spouse is in the shower, jump in. Do things that are totally unexpected. Take a vacation - somewhere there isn't a whole lot to do other than stay close to the hotel....lay on the beach and then head back to hotel and order room service....

Answer 5

Well, figure out some of the basics. What are you turn ons? How did you do foreplay? What are some scents you think are sexy? Then, mix it up a little bit. Have sex in bed, on the couch, on a table, in the bath tub. Do another things that are sensual like strip for each other or tease one another.

Answer 6

Meet him at the door completely nude and tell him you want to have have 25 solid orgasms in the next three hours and you won't take "NO" for an answer!.

Most fizzle because the males get tired of trying to initiating and getting rejected most of the time. Set the bar and have him meet the challange. So, you only get to 20 orgasms. 20's better than 3 mediocre ones, right?

Answer 7

Take a bath together and as you lay against each bathing each other, talk about your intimate past....ask him what his fondest sexual memory of you is...and vice versa. Talking sensual and sexual is one of the easiest ways to boost intimacy...and while many people think they're too embarrassed to do this, it's really easier than you think...especially if you make it about you and your spouse....when you're with somene you love, there is nothing dirty about sex.

There are plenty of other ways as well, but I bet this will get you off to a good start!

Answer 8

Time to plan a three day weekend on the beach somewhere. That should jump start things. The sound of the ocean is such an aphrodisiac.

Answer 9

Do something together. Tell each other how you truly feel and what each of you want out of your sex life. What do each of you want to do ( fantasies). You can leave notes for each other. have each one of you to make a list and give to each other and see if anything is the same. Take turns doing something on the lists.

Answer 10

Discuss your fantasies and then choose which ones to act out together. Try new places, different positions. If you're used to doing it in your bed at home, try doing it in the car somewhere that you're not likely to get caught. It can be very erotic and stimulating. Good luck =)

Answer 11

When I want to add some variety and spice to my sex life, I download a new batch of porn.