Why do American men always blame women for their problems?:?

Question

My close friend at work who just had a baby 4 months ago just found out that her husband was having an affair? His excuse, you were to busy with the baby and didnt have enough time for me. CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT. I am so angry at the male right now I want to punch them, I cannot believe he told her its her fault for knocking her up and providing motherhood for HIS child. american men can be such babies, they have a 60% adultery rate

no its not me because I wouldnt ask a question, I would be beating him up. I am not married and dont plan on it anytime soon

Answer 1

My wife had a baby five months ago and I would never dream of having an affair on her or leaving her. If anything, having the baby has made our marriage stronger. Guess I'm one of the 40%. :~)

Answer 2

I think you are somewhat right. The 60% aadultery rate is about right too. Most men let their little head rule their big head plus most men have fantasy's...they go to Strip Bars and get lap dances..they watch more PORNO..so men are more voyeuristic..this gets them in trouble as sooner or later they will act out on their fantasy..A baby is a good excuse to cheat..but women live a lot longer then men..15 years or more..by the time men are 70 there are five (5) women for every man. Most mother's don't cheat as much as their male counterpart..I know I am past that stage in my life..but most men will cheat if they have the opportunity and they think they can get away with it...but the truth always comes out..sooner or later..even great men like JFK or Bill Clinton have cheated.
There is a double standard. Most countries have allowed a mistress for the males..like in the Philippines the mistress is to be permitted by the wife of the cheating male..only there it is not considered cheating but a way of life.

Answer 3

I'm not saying that what he did was right. But 2 things you should tell your friend to know. One is that to us sex is not an emotional thing. To us it’s just a physical thing. We don't have to be emotionally involved with the person to have sex. I know it’s hard for women to understand. Because they are the more emotional and sentimental of the 2. And second is that what he told her was just rationalizing. What he felt was abandoned. Women don't understand that when she became pregnant she was going to have to deal with 2 kids, not just one. Men like the attention. And thought the time of pregnancy everything is about the women. Which is rightfully so. But the man can start to feel left out. And unimportant or even need. Or he can just felt trapped. And the one thing that is missing from his life was found with this other woman. Again I'm not say what he did was right. It’s the way life goes.

And you should remember that not all men react the same way he did. But is doesn’t mean we don’t feel abandoned, not needed, unappreciated, and un-important.

Answer 4

Dont blame all men just because he's a jerk.

Basic info on cheating:::Men tend to cheat more and with more partners. Women tend to keep cheating when they do it and are much more likely to either leave their mate or just become emotionally detached once cheating.

Its the person and the situation, not the gender. He's just an ***, but he is also under an incredible amount of stress as well. He needs to be a man, realize that he did lose portion of his wife yes, but its a transition that he has to learn to work with. He may just need someone to talk to to figure out how he is supposed to fit in--immediately if he's staying, because the longer it lasts the worse it is.

Answer 5

There is no controversy-- Vogue magazine and the Associated Press went out to stir up a controversy and it still hasn't happened! Why would there be controversy when Black men and white women (and visa versa) have been with each other for years? I guess when you put a photo on a magazine for white teen girls, they are supposed to be so impressionable that they start running after Black men? I will say that it would have been nice to see the first Black man on the cover of Vogue in a suit, with or without the white female.

Answer 6

Its not just men, human beings are predisposessed to find a reason for everything, good or bad. Now when its bad its a natural instinct in most people to find fault in others and therefore justify their actions. Just as many women do it as men. However, I must say in this case, that guy is such a s**t, he basically couldnt keep his wares in his pants and got caught. Its just a shame your friend never found this little character trait before she became pregnant by him.

Answer 7

So he's a weak-willed dork.

Those 60% of men - are they all seducing nuns in convents or what?

What's the percentage of married women having affairs?

Is there the least little chance she "didn't have enough time" for him and his sexual desires? Men, about 60% of the time, will bolt from such treatment.

Answer 8

For ever married man having an affair there is a woman who was in the affair with him. Now if she knew he was married she is just as guilty as he was.So what is the adultery rate for american women?

Answer 9

i have a question for you: "why do YOU seem to blame everything on AMERICAN men"? I've seen your previous posts and it seems like you are a bit obsessed with pointing the finger at them. I'm not defending them or anything, because I really don't care, I'm a foreigner, but your view seems to be pretty narrow and immature.

Answer 10

Because American men are intimidated by a real woman. Instead of using women's ideas to compliment and improve their own ideas. They choose to put women down to save their masculinity. With all do respect to men, and I am one, American men are still basic animals with only the need to service and pro-create.