Which one is more IMPORTANT ???

Question

For me the most important thing in my life is my career. So much that I chose a rich guy who loves me instead of an ordinary guy whom I love. Don;t get me wrong, I like my husband a lot and am really attached to him. But recently he hit the ground hard. I can't stand that. I was always involved in his work and I know he will make a comeback, eventually. But wasting that much time is not a good option for the future. He says he cares only about me and not the money. And that if I wasn't bothered about the success bit he wouldn't even consider it a loss given I remain by his side. I feel obliged to stay, but I don't want to. It seems he really wants me there and looks to me for some consolation. Twist is my previous lover says that he know I love him so he will pay my husband the money to start over again given that he gives me a divorce.
What would be more important for my husband ? The money now or the money eventually with me by his side ?

I know he said that he cares about me and not the freaking money but I wonder, did he just say that to keep me rotting with him ??? Or did he mean it? He said these before my ex bf offered him the money.

Answer 1

Most important would be if gold digging opertunistic greedy leaches like yourself, would drop off the face of the earth

Answer 2

You chose him for money and now he relies on you. The fact that you're keeping this guy in the wings shows you don't love him back and I wonder if had the money not got a bit shaky if you would have the guy waiting. What you're doing is messed up but the answer is this: If you are going to leave the guy when he's down then leave him and allow him the chance to find someone who loves him and the fact that he works hard. You go get together with the guy who's not making enough money and be done with it. Stringing along two guys is manipulative and disgusting.

Answer 3

I was waiting for the punchline that never came; you're actually serious. I'm going to attempt to answer your question first then I'm going to editorialize a bit (so I beg your indulgence). From your husband's perspective, he likely feels he can handle any adversity as long as he knows you're by his side; a reasonable expectation of a spouse in a conventional marriage. He's probably not even remotely interested in having money from your "lover" in exchange for a divorce and will most likely vigorously refuse it (and be highly insulted in the process). (You're not a commodity no matter how inflated your opinion of yourself may be.) This concludes the "answer" to your question. Editorially however, you're a contemptible person having shunned one man (whom you claim to "love") for not meeting your lofty financial goals, and threatened to desert yet another one for experiencing an economic downturn...you must think your stuff's the bomb, huh? What are you for, exactly? The best thing you could do for your husband would be to divorce him right away. It'll hurt him, maybe even devastate him for awhile but he'll heal and he'll be better off and free to find a woman of substance who really cares about him. A woman with an understanding of the real reasons for marrying in the first place; a partner who understands give and take, and who respects the vows to love each other "for better or for worse, for richer for poorer..." etc. Basically, he doesn't deserve a fair-weather companion, and the sooner you're out of the way, the sooner he can find a real prize. Best of luck with your career ambitions.

Answer 4

. Do you realize that you sound like you dont know what YOU want. You say you chose your husband because he was rich and loves you. Now that he doesnt have the money you want to leave him. You need to decide what you need and want to be happy. If you are not happy neither will your husband or the previous lover be. A man who I love and loves me is more important than money.

Answer 5

If I were him I would go for the money and a divorce. You sound like most men's worst nightmare. Heaven forbid he ever gets sick or needs your support when he is down. He deserves better. I hope you find what you are looking for out there - but I suspect you will end up a lonely rich old lady with no loved ones to care for you. That's a sad way to live.

Answer 6

Your husband's plan all along was to get you to marry him by pretending to be successful. Then he lost it all so that you could suffer by his side for all eternity.

Leave your worthless husband and get with your boyfriend. Don't let your boyfriend give your husband money, you two can use it for a vacation.

Just be careful that your husband doesn't sue you for what you're worth. HA HA HA.

Answer 7

if you have to ask what is more important money now and no love or money later and him having to be stuck married to someone that is obviously self centered, greedy and arrogant, do him a favor, leave him know it sounds like the previous lover has your number, or should I say price.

Answer 8

Well obviously the he loves you, so to him it would be better with you by his side. However, you said you like your husband....you never said you loved him. Though he may not see it now, he is better off without you. Not to sound harsh, but you sound like a gold digger and he deserves someone better than you.

Answer 9

1st of all: What a freak you are. and your previous "lover"

I think you'd ask your husband what is most important to him, not us. Or maybe you're just looking for a co-signer on your twisted little opinion.

Answer 10

What?! Neither. Do what is best for you not your husband. And do you think he would actually take money from your lover! He already said money isnt important. This is dumb.