I've known my boyfriend for about 10 years but have only been dating him for about 5 months. He's been in love with me since we were younger (around 13) but never had the courage to ask me out, he finally asked me out after all those years and also asked me to marry him. We were very happy for awhile and now I'm starting to have this "feeling" that he's not happy with me and that he might be falling out of love with me.
When we first started dating he used to do little stuff like send me flowers and he used to say I love you a billion times a day (even in his sleep!) and he used to cuddle me while we slept and it would stay like that all night. Now it seems like he isn't doing much of the "little things" that made me love him even more. He doesn't say he loves me as much anymore (not at all in his sleep), he doesn't stay cuddled with me while we sleep, and he never gives me flowers anymore.
I don't know if this is just a feeling that will pass or if something is really wrong?
2007-06-18 05:16:50 · 14 answers · asked by Dollykins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have talked about it, he knows how I feel, he goes back to doing the little things for a bit and then stops again.
2007-06-18 05:21:38 · update #1
Thank you all for your answers, I really appreciated them and it was nice to get some advice about this. I've been in some pretty horrible relationships and this is the best relationship I've ever been in, so I think I'm maybe just a little scared when things seem to settle down and "get comfortable" in this relationship. I see now that it's just how things go and it doesn't mean he loves me any less and that we're great.
2007-06-18 05:37:05 · update #2
Be happy.... He isnt falling out of love. You descripe the stay of falling in love... Now, it seems he has moved on to the stage of actual, true and never ending love where he knows hes got ya for sure (After all, men hunt their loves - or want to think they did lol) You re the prize and he knows you all his now. This is only a healthy part of love you two are going trough. And it is reason for happiness...He definitly feels at home with you! and congrats to having caughts such an awesome fiancee!
2007-06-18 05:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can really do is ask him how he feels about you. He knows how you feel but how does HE feel.
With most people, when they are doing the 'little things' it's to make you fall for them. Once you've fallen, they seem a little more insignifacant than before. He may very well be even more in love with you now than ever before... but you'll never know unless you flat out ask him how he feels.
The best thing to do is just to tell him that you love him and you want to know if he really loves you. That's really all you can do.
2007-06-18 05:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just something that happens when you get comfortable with a person. But instead of the flowers and cuddles something else comes around. You can't expect these things all the time now. When your relationship was new it was exciting, now it's comfortable. And if it was the little things that made you love him more, then you're looking at the wrong things to love him for. It's not about what he gives you, but rather what he does for you. So you really don't have anything to worry about. Don't "nag" him for this either. Guys hate to be nagged. And I don't know if you've ever given him flowers, or a nice letter, or something else he'd like. But if not I would, guys like to get sweet little surprises just like us. We can't be selfish or have things one way.
2007-06-18 05:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not falling out of love with you, but he is passing the infatuation phase of love. Be prepared, this is where the relationship is going to be decided if it's a healthy one or not. Just let him know because if you don't it just builds up and leads to a dark road. Something to be known, true love finds light even in the darkest corner.
2007-06-18 05:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Answers-for-you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, he still probably loves you. usually guys do all that little stuff in the beginning because they aren't sure that they have you yet, so they try to do as much as possible. now he probably feels secure and trusts that you love him too, so he doesn't feel like he has to try so hard. just tell him that you really liked when he did all of those little things for you when you first started dating, and that it would make you really happy if he did something like that for you again occasionally. i wouldn't put the expectation that he's going to do everything he used to do like that on him though, cause most likely he isnt. just let him know you still want to be thought of though, whether its just a text saying hi or a visit from him while you're at work.
2007-06-18 05:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't expect him to send you flowers daily for years... Guys and gals tend to treat the other party much more better when they are in a crush or just starting the relationship. Remember that everyone has a personal life and privacy. He may be tired of stress in work/studies. Have you agreed to the marriage proposal? If yes, he may have marriage stress. He may be worried about life during marriage. If this is so, try cohabiting with him(if you are fine), and let you two experience life together, so you will not regret the marriage or have last-minute regrets when it is too late.
2007-06-18 05:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get too worried. The beginning of a relationship is always lustfull and passionate. This happens to most couples. You should be more secure with your relationship. He does not need to tell you he loves you every second of every day. You should be proud that he is to the point where his love for you is known- and he doesnt have to reassure you every three seconds. This is just one of the many transitions of a relationship- it does not mean he love you any less..it means that he is finally comfortable with you- that he can be himself.
2007-06-18 05:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those "little things" are nice but they're not a sign that a person loves you or doesn't love you.
You need to have a talk with him to talk about how he feels about you and how you feel about him.
Communicating is more important than the "little things."
2007-06-18 05:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just a guy falling into his routine. Guys usually aren't very romantic. All that romantic stuff happens early on so he can win you over.
2007-06-18 05:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was giving you flowers and such , but what are you doing for him ? spend some time and think of things you can do to make him feel special to you . like send him flowers with a witty note .. but being in love you have to know your being loved 2
2007-06-18 05:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Roy J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋