my fiancee finds it really difficult to orgasm.?

Question

she is 50 and had this problem her whole life. it seems to be that she is not sensitive enough in the sexual area. the only thing that works sometimes is one of our vibrators, but that also takes ages. any ideas what to do or what is possible????

Answer 1

A lot of women have this problem. One thing you can try is using the right sexual positions. The female-superor (female on top) position is great for helping women achieve orgasm. Also, you have to make sure the two of you are communicating. Try different things on her and ask her how it feels. The vibrator thing is also a good idea. Some women can only achieve orgasm that way.

Make sure she is relaxed, and don't make her feel like she has to have one. You can also do some research on female anatomy, maybe find some other sensitive areas to explore.

Answer 2

If what you mean is that she doesn't climax with penetrative sex then actually that's quite common ( maybe 1/3 women?). I guess it just doesn't hit the right spots. Why don't you just use vibrators, manual or oral stimulation on her - don't worry how long it takes; then when she's come you'll be practically ready yourself. There's a huge variation in what people need sexually - it's a complete myth that women and men normally climax simultaneously and swiftly every time. That's for the movies.

Answer 3

This is very common. I would suggest (and I'm not being pervy when I say this) that practicing will help! Make sure she is totally relaxed & maybe suggest to her to "practice" on her own too, as well as with you.
But don't make a big deal out of it - you have to let her know it's not the most important thing for you as that will only make her feel inadequate & she will find it even more difficult to orgasm if she feels like your eagerly waiting for it.-
There's nothing that stops me having an orgasm more than someone saying ("*** for me now baby...") It's like if your about to sneeze & someone starts talking to you about how your about to sneeze & tells you to sneeze "now!" - guarunteed you will not sneeze lol. It's the same kinda thing.

Finally, just because she doesn't orgasm every time, doesn't mean she isn't enjoying it as much as you.

Edited to say, Pantyliner hasn't got a clue what he's talking about.

Answer 4

DUDE I KNOW AN ANSWER!!!!

Try something from Anne Summers!... Called "***** Rub". It warms the area up. Then try eating mints.. the cold and warm sensation could help.

Use a mixture of toys and the real thing... What is her favorite position? or fantasy?

Don't give up! different strokes for different folks.

Answer 5

the key to the*0* for women is foreplay, LOTS of foreplay.
it may seem to you like it takes forever, but imagine how she feels, first off, you need to tell her you understand it is o.k. . you don't want her to be self concsious about it, or she won't want sex, and that's not good for anyone.
womens pleasure receptors are different than men.

some men can finish in 30 sec. this is because men are sitting on go, they are always ready, it's like a switch, you know this.

but, a woman has to be worked up to it. it's not our choice, just how it is. it's not that we don't want sex, it's almost like our vag. takes a while to catch up with what our brain is telling it.
the key to her pleasure is foreplay. it's the stimulation, because once you are in the throws and you are satisfied there is no going back to help her out. so, foreplay for a while, this kind of compensates and puts you on the same page . try having a good amount of foreplay, you may be bored out of your mind, but she will be happy, and if she's not happy you won't be.
hope this helps.

Answer 6

There are gels out there designed exclusively for women, that claim to stimulate/intensify female intimate response. Good luck.

Answer 7

A lot more foreplay before you really 'get going' tends to encourage orgasm

Answer 8

I would suggest oral sex, if she can't have multiple orgasms with that, then I'm stuck! She needs to relax, and after a nice bath what better?

Answer 9

i believe the male hormone testosterone can help,in low doses in gel applied to this area.ask your doc for advice and if he or she cant help go on the internet and see whats available for this problem,try natural remedies herbal can be good.wish you and her the best of luck

Answer 10

That means that she probably has had alot of sexual partners. No joking around, it's the truth. The more sex a woman has the more the nerve in sexual area get dull. That probably why she can only have with a orgasm with a vibrator.