Is Beauty a curse?

Question

I don’t have any female friends and all the guy friends I have, always try to hit on me and when I turn them down, they become hostile towards me. I’ve spoken to my mother about it and she said it’s the price you pay for beauty, but I don’t want it anymore, I’m sick of people hating me for it and guys wanting to just use me because of it. Also I hate when guys stare at me, it makes me feel dirty. I feel cursed. You always think of beauty as a gift, as something very much desired, but what happens when it ruins your life, not so much a gift anymore is it?

Answer 1

First of all there are many kinds of beauty. To be beautiful on the outside (skin deep) actually is of value in youth, it helps open doors the average looker would never have opened to them. More importantly, I feel, is our inner beauty, how we treat others, how we embrace life and the circumstances it deals to us. For you it has dealt outer beauty. The people or girls that feel jealous of you, basically want what you have, "Outer Beauty" so they feel they have a lack of the beauty of their own selves. It's pretty petty. Guys are another story, they not all but most boys, want a bracelet on their arm, something beautiful to stroke their fragile egos.Be careful not to be used by them or you will feel used, abused and thrown away after they have conquered you. Not Good. I would suggest you work on your inner beauty and bring it up to the standard of your outer beauty. Then when these simpletons approach you, you handle yourself with class and style not falling prey to anyone. Laugh it off, don't let it get to you, they win when you feel bad about yourself.

Answer 2

Woe is me. LOL.

I don't have many female friends, either. Like you, most of my associates are men. Luckily, I'll be married on Friday so they are all well aware than I am off limits.

No, beauty is no curse. I do have female associates that I get along with. It's all about your personality. If you're standoffish, or antisocial (which many pretty girls are because they are cynical and think everyone either hates them or wants to sleep with them) you will alienate yourself.

Just work on your personality a bit and I'm sure you'll find you're meeting more friends.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Give it time, you're obviously young now and dealing with a different mentality of people than you will be for most of your life. Your beauty can work for you if you let it. The time will come when you can pick between men instead of having to be annoyed by little boys, and more competition will mean more chances to find someone great.

Answer 4

No it isn't! Thank God for being beautiful. If men are looking at you constantly, why then not take the previllege and marry one of your countless andmirers. Choose the best one for you. By doing that, you could actually have honoured your beauty that God has decorated you with. Also try being beautiful in your insides; as it is FAR better than the beauty outside. It even lasts longer!!

Good luck and God bless, Amen!

Answer 5

if you really want to you could maybe ease up on your makeup...? im sure you will still be beautiful but not too gorgeous and flawless that everyone is kind of afraid to approach you? i know people would call this "give in to peer pressure" or whatnot but im just saying if you really want to...
just hope that you'll soon be comfortable with yourself, regardless of what people think of you... im sorry you have to think of your beauty as a curse like this, but i believe it is a gift and i also believe you'll be ok ;) there are many others who will look at your personality and not your appearance
cheer up and good luck!

Answer 6

Well you obviously have plenty of self confidence. Perhaps you're choosing the wrong type of men to date. Try going out with an ugly git, he will be eternally grateful and you might learn some compassion for the less fortunate. A curse is no different to a blessing it just depends upon the intent.

Answer 7

better than being ugly, because it's also a lonely life when people spit at you in the street and cover their children's eyes when you walk past. Don't even speak to me about hoardes of villagers with burning touches at the front door.

I kind of sympathise, but your choice of friends is questionable. Girls get bitchy and jealous. The usual pattern is fit girl with fat mate. the fit girl is made to feel good about herself on a regular basis, the fat girl feels good as two blokes will chat the pair up (without knowledge of the expression "taking one for the team"). If a boy wants to make friends with you, you should always question why to be honest. they might seem friendly but they are really trying to chat you up.
maybe try to make friends based on interests?
life gets better, honest, you make friends with people you work with. There are nice people out there, sometimes you got to sieve through the sh*t to find the diamonds.

Answer 8

i think god gave you beauty for a reason. In stead of guys who randomly come up to you for a date or like to flirt shamlessy, try dating the guys who are mostly in the background. Most of the good guys are guys who are really shy and have trouble talking to girls. It makes those kind of guys feel a little good about them selves if a good looking girl talks to them or just acknoledges them with a smile.

Answer 9

i think it can be a curse and i used to pray that i would stop getting so much attention,but now ive just learnt to deal with it.

its annoying when every mile you walk another guy hits on you.it can get frustrating and girls always ***** about you saying''she thinks shes too nice'' i know the feeling.

and when i try telling some people how i feel they think im just trying to float my own boat,so now i cant even talk about it as i want to.

Answer 10

First of all, Hi Lolita, you and i share the same taste, i guess, look at our avatars!! Anyways, you should be happy in a way that you are pretty it is a gift. Its something you either have or you dont. I mean, you dont know how it feels like when you get on a bus and people start staring at you and you look ugly, thats something to moan about, but at least you know when people look at you its cause your pretty.