Does chatting = cheating? Will he forget, forgive, either, neither?

Question

I chatted, I shared pictures, I got busted. I didn't sleep with anyone and this was over a year and a half ago. I can't say anything without him getting bent out of shape. He called me a whore.

Answer 1

I don't think it's cheating, but it's a violation of trust, which is just as bad.

Answer 2

AHHHH.... Emotional Affair or "just chattin"? I had a similar issue W/ BF. They were just "friend's", without going into a long story: 1) if you hide it, its Wrong
2) If either person chattin, cant/wouldn't tell spouse /significant other, it's Wrong 3) true friendships wouldn't require anonymity 4) Pictures,bad!!!; it's wrong.
This is deception, the hurt & mistrust it causes is hard to cure & let go of. But I can attest, if you both want too you can overcome it. Both need to decided on a set of boundries for your relationship, to be followed by both NO Questions!! In my case I was only comfortable when we both disclosed all of our email accounts & passwords. They can be & are checked by eachother, if there is a question it is asked & answered. It may have been a long time ago, but if it was never dealt w/ & worked through it has & will continue to fester & it probably will kill the relationship. My question to you is: What is more important? an exciting fling type relation. or a committed long term relationship. Guess you need to answer that first. If your not happy or satisified in the relationship, get out first, &then go play, chat till your hearts content.

Answer 3

Depends on what you chatted about? The weather? And what kind of pictures did you share? You need to put yourself in the shoes of your boyfriend and be honest. It would bother you if you found out your boyfriend was having intimate "chats" with other girls and sending and receiving pictures. As for calling you a whore, that was pretty harsh, I would have smacked him for that one. You were just.."playing" around not messing around. He should be more mature and just accept your apology and your assurances that you'll never do it again and let it go.

Answer 4

Sounds like he's not going to forget, and likely not forgive. As far as whether or not it constitutes as cheating - that depends on the situation. What was your intention? Even if you didn't sleep with him - did you think about it? Would the relationship have gone farther if you hadn't gotten busted? Only you can answer these questions.

And really, if your spouse considers it a betrayal, then it is.

Answer 5

Chatting does not necessarily equal cheating. I would say that the content of what you were chatting about should be a factor in determing if you were cheating. There is a thing called lieing by omission. Where you are actually lieing to someone when you fail to tell them something that you KNOW they would like to know about. I wouldn't recommend that you keep chatting to others when especially your husband doesn't approve.

Answer 6

I am a man and I dont think you are a whore. In my opinion you did not cheat and were just having some fun.

Answer 7

He will forget and forgive if you stop doing that. Just make a promise to him that you won't do that again and keep moving on with your life. Be firm with him that you never slept with anyone and you love only him.

Answer 8

it's called emotional cheating and that is what you did. that doesnt give him the right to call you a whore though.

how would you feel if he chatted w/ someone online and exchanged a few pictures? will you be upset?

Answer 9

Cheating does not have to be physical. If you kept it from you husband then you knew what you were doing was inappropriate and a betrayal of his trust.

Enough said.

Answer 10

lol..your Avatar say "A whore"..thats funny. lol

You are not! Stop calling yourself names!