My wife is already seeing another guy and our divorce will not be final for another 30 days. My wife and I are still very good friends and our divorce will be uncontested. We have a 13 year old daughter that she will have full custody of but I can visit her anytime I want.
What really sucks about this entire situation is I can't confront my wife about seeing that other guy. If I do I fear I'll only upset her and she will make the divorce get ugly. We've already agreed to a child support dollar amount that I'm obligated to. I'd hate for her to change her mind and make me pay the full amount because I pissed her off.
What should I do? Please understand I can CARELESS about her seeing the other guy. We're getting a divorce remember? What I what to know is if I can use this to my advantage in the event my wife wants to screw me over at the last minute. I'm in Texas and we're still legally married. There's is no separation law here.
2007-06-18 03:30:32 · 15 answers · asked by kimchee_boi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please understand when the divorce is final and my wife decides not to make things ugly then I will never bring up the subject of her seeing the other guy. Like i said, I can careless.
2007-06-18 03:32:44 · update #1
I also forgot to mention the guy she's seeing is also married.
2007-06-18 04:09:01 · update #2
If you're already getting divorced and things are going amicably, why look at something negative to hold against her later? It doesn't really matter if she's dating someone else. Let sleeping dogs lie, and think of the best interest of your daughter before looking for ammo against her mother.
2007-06-18 04:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert on Texas law, but speaking as someone who's been through it in Pennsylvania, I can tell you that your wife seeing someone else is not a problem with the courts. Heck, we have "no-fault" divorce in Pennsylvania, and it wouldn't even matter if your wife was seeing someone else while you were still "happily married" and living together. If you've already listed irreconcilable differences or some other reason on your court papers, her seeing some other man now won't make any difference to anyone for anything.
It's harsh, but if, as you say, you truly don't care, then don't make an issue of it UNLESS this is some unsavory character that you don't trust around your daughter.
2007-06-18 03:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Musicality 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way it could be used to strengthen your case in the event it gets ugly is if she is doing anything with her new guy in front of your daughter. I am not familiar with Texas divorce laws, but here, there is a very strict rule against paramours (boyfriend/girlfriend) spending the night or any inappropriate conduct in the presence of a child prior to the divorce being finalized. You can date, but are not to have a bf/gf spend the night and you can not be involved in any kind of activity that could be judged as inappropriate. You will have to talk to your lawyer to find out the specifics in your area.
2007-06-18 03:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though its best to wait until a divorce is final, she knows its soon and she's seeing someone. If you consider it cherating, I can see the viewpoint, but you two are both agreed on the divorce, so were I you, I wouldn't broach the subject. Seems like a trivial waste of time since the divorce is finalizing so soon. Be happy she's with soemone else to put up with the stuff you hated and couldn't tolerate - she's his problem now.
2007-06-18 03:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are getting divorce right? The divorce will be final in 30 days. so What? She has right to go with other guys. It's none of you business now. You both know that you won't go back to be together, that's why you are getting divorced. Leave her alone and move on with your new life.
2007-06-18 03:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Penny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the law there is the same way as where I am (MS). With that being said, the court won't care because your divorce is agreed. You can probably still withdraw your consent to finalize it (you can do that here), but it still won't make much difference. It's not an ace up your sleeve in an way, because your divorce is agreed. It' best to let it go.
2007-06-18 03:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need proof of adultery - video, snapshots for it to stand. There is a problem with the infidelity part in front of a minor child & could tip the scales in your favor if you have to use it as a last resort in court. The fact that they were shacking up and living as "man & wife" while a minor child was living there is the problem -- something about not running a proper household to raise a child. Check with an attorney to be sure that can be used in Texas. Best of luck to you!
2007-06-18 03:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound to me like you could care less. Drop the torch. She is not cheating on you. She has moved on. You should too. Just because the legal issues are not complete does not mean that your marriage is not over. Move on!
As for trying to screw you over, if she does play hard ball. Contest everything including custody! That is the best card you have to play. If you need it!
2007-06-18 03:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Willie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I would be as nice as possible so she sticks to that amount you agreed on. Im guessing its less than what you would normally have to pay. Unless you want custody it would just be making her look bad. Just let her know you would like to meet him because he is around your daughter. Or if you dont care then leave it alone.
2007-06-18 03:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts won't care that she is seeing someone else, so you can't use it in court if that's what you're asking.
If you had filed for divorce using adultery as grounds for divorce, then that should be taken into consideration with division of property.
2007-06-18 03:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋