so when i was 13 my parents got a divorce and my dad has this job that he had to travel to be an insurance guy, so i went to live w/ my mom we didn't move far only like a mile and my dad moved to chicago w/ his girlfriend while he left there to go work when he had to. well now my dad moved back here because he kinda broke up w/ his grlfrd but now they are back together, well he moved here and him and my mom have joint custudy and now my dad is takin my mom to coart for full cus. well i want joint custudy and i also have a younger sis and we want to be together and we want to go to my dads one week and then the next week w/ my mom but i don't wanna like get envolved because my mom keeps tellin me how he is just trying to take us away from her and then my dad tells me stuff and tells me how he could buy us a big house so i think he is trying to buy love and am i right to like be mad at them both for being imature? i am 15 and i feel like i am takin on the responsibility of a 20yr ord
2007-06-18 03:14:14 · 11 answers · asked by kels10 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You may want to look through the Yellow Pages and call a lawyer that gives free initial consultations. Can't speak for Illinois, but here in Michigan a child can choose which parent he/she wants to live with (or can say he/she wants to go back and forth between the two) at age 14. Don't think you're helpless here. The court is required BY LAW to take your feelings into consideration.
2007-06-18 03:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to feel torn and overwhelmed. Please get a good counselor to help you not get wrecked with your parents silliness. At age 15, you have say in what happens in your life. Don't feel caught in the middle. Have someone contact the court and get a representative that is neither your mom's or your dad's and is neutral and will do what is the best for you and your sister. You and your sister have the right to lead predictable, normal lives without your parents discussing their issues with you. Stop listening. "I love you, but I can't handle listening to this." Leave the room, the house, or whatever, but do not tolerate one more instance of either one of them bashing the other or discussing this crap with you two. They are adults and should be able to work this out like adults. Jeez.
I am sooo stinking sorry they are being selfish and stupid. It will get better. Your dad will not get custody. He will get visitation rights. The nice thing is that they both love you, but they need not to use you and your sister as tools to beat each other with while they resolve their relationship issues. They need to stop acting like selfish jerks.
In the meantime, get someone you can really talk to. Take excellent care of yourself. Do the right thing. Don't listen to anymore of this nonsense from them, okay?
2007-06-18 12:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, i can tell you i know what that's like, the difference is my dad had custody of me, and i want to be with my mom. But anyways, you should talk to the both of them and let them know how you feel about the situation. If they really care and want to do whats best, then they will hear you out. Being apart of your younger sister's life is very important. So get them together somehow, or you can talk to them separately and let them know your concerns, and then just maybe, they will get together and talk things out. If that doesn't work got to your grandparents, and maybe they can make things happen, but whatever you do, don't give up, keep trying because i know how it is to want something to work out and it seem to take forever.
DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!!
2007-06-18 10:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought since i am one of ur best friends i would answer! I am so sry that u r going through all of this right now i mean my parents wasnt that hard cause my dad isnt allowed 2 get custody. I hope u know that u can talk 2 me about all of this! I wont judge or do anything just listen!
2007-06-19 13:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Fluteluvur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(ok this happened to me at age 9 but my mom want the cus)all in all the judge will give the cus to the best diseving parents and if you tell the judge you want joined cus it really makes a difference!make sure you tell your dad that you love them both and dont think its fair to your mom that hes take the kids
2007-06-18 10:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit both of your parents down if it is possible and tell them that you love them both equally, tell them how you feel and how you want to be close to your sister and that you would feel best if they had joint custody. Hopefully they'll snap out of this tug o war and see that their actions are hurting you. God bless.
2007-06-18 10:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents how you feel. You are old enough to decide who you want to live with. If you have to, tell the judge what you told us. It seems as if your parents are trying to get at one another through you. Good luck!
2007-06-18 10:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by catsmeowjrk2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are to young for all this responsiblty...your parents shouldn't be doing this !! you should talk to both of them and tell them what you want !! they are your parents and all they want for and yor sister is to make you you happy ! if you tell them that you don't want a to go to court and how you feel about it !! they will understand !
2007-06-18 10:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by shanshaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your parents how you feel. As they say, honesty is the best policy.
2007-06-18 10:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ur dad is an @sshole plain and simple, but u will not see this from the inside only an outsider can see.
2007-06-18 10:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋