My Bf told me he wishes I had a 24" waist and 38" hips :(?

Question

my stats are 36-27-36...i always thought i was in shape and was proud at the fact that i worked hard into getting my weight down some years back (i was overweight as a teen)...then one day he says this, actually he mentioned it twice :(
...he wishes my waist was a 24 and that my hips were wider because that's his idea of the 'ideal woman'...i always thought mine were wide enough at 36...it really depresses me...are some men really that horrid??? since he said that i can't help but obsess about getting fat sucked off my waist and implants in my butt....God, I feel so dumb for letting his insensitive comments bother me!

thnks so much girls :)
...i wish a guy would give an answer tho as to why he's behaving this way...him having said that really made me question his true feelings towards me...

Answer 1

if he doesn't appreciate you as you are, tell him he is free to go and find his perfect woman.don't allow him to manipulate you this is the start of allowing a man to control you. stand your ground.

Answer 2

An ideal waist should be below 90cm (35.5inches) as those above 90 cm correlate to an increased risk of conditions such as diabetes however your proportions suggest you are pear shaped rather than apple shaped which is a good thing as its a healthy weight distribution. a target of a 24 inch waist is ridiculous and unhealthy there is a good reason standard clothes don't come in this size.

Answer 3

Tell him you wished he was 8 inches long. That'll get him...! Seriously, no. I would not tolerate his comments. I would dump him faster than a hot potato! You are perfect the way you are. It isn't you, it's him. He is insecure, and he is passing on his polluted thinking to you. Don't allow him to let you feel bad about this. There is nothing wrong with you, or your size. No relationship is worth feeling bad. If he was a true partner, he would encourage you and love you unconditionally. He would "lift" you up and compliment you.

Answer 4

Your bf has shallowness themes. With that discern, you're in extra advantageous shape than extra desirable than ninety 5% of the inhabitants. the reality which you have been heavy at a youthful age skill this button is a minimum of heat, if not warm. And he probable knows which you're delicate approximately your physique (all women are, with the _possible_ exception of Charlize Thereon). sure, some men are this horrid. you may ask your self what you're searching for at this element in time. Are you searching for super intercourse that gets you with the aid of existence once you finally end up with a humdrum accountant for a husband? Or are you waiting to discover a guy who could rather assist you to advance your toddlers particularly of gallivanting approximately making extra toddlers someplace else? stable men do not could be boring. you in easy terms could get inventive to discover them. carry out in bookstores. examine some books different than romances (examine the romances too, in case you like, yet men do not carry out interior the harlequin aisle). try going to a technology fiction convention. do not gown up as Princess Leia, merely be your self, have relaxing, and permit issues ensue. seem, the male-to-female ratio at a technology fiction convention is going to be someplace north of 10:a million. and that they are going to all have an interest in a gal who's involved in technology fiction. yet another attitude, which suits rather nicely for the Xena-kinds available, is paintball. The ratio at paintball fields is extra like one hundred:a million, i.e., pass with a girl chum, act helpless and harmless, and have a stable time. you isn't disillusioned. unload the jerk. With that physique, you extremely deserve extra advantageous.

Answer 5

Did you let him know how much his comment hurt your feelings? Girls already go through so much stress trying to be in great shape & eat healthy, you don't need someone close to you critiquing your figure. Don't let him get you down! You're beautiful! Keep your confidence and don't stick with this guy if he's trying to change anything about you. Does he think he's physically perfect? *laughs* PLEASE let him know how you feel and that you need a relationship that doesn't have physical stats attached to it.

Answer 6

society has made it impossible for any of us women to feel good about ourselves... Men have such messed up ideas as to what is perfect... please you need to dump him and find a man who admires and appreciates you for just who you are a beautiful proud woman... most women can not have a 24 inch waist ...your bf needs a clue.. and you should have responded yeah?? i will work on that how about you get a ab/six pack and a 10 inch penis and come back and see me then

Answer 7

If he's that hung up on looks, do you really want to date someone like that? There are more important things in life (MUCH more important) than having the "perfect" body.

Tell him you wish he had a 10" c*ck.

Answer 8

Tell him to Bugger off and find someone else,if he is not happy with what he's got then he can't be much of a guy,i
was being polite when i said BUGGER off,i was thinking more along the line's of F*** OFF, if you belonged to me i would be proud to show you off with those stats.Go for it tell
him to take a hike,surely there is some one you know who would be happy to have you for you,and not for what you could be?

Answer 9

well girl, i would tell him if he wasnt happy with me that he could either keep his opinions to himself or that he could go on and find himself a "barbie doll".

The main point here is that YOU feel good about yourself. That YOU are happy with the way you look and feel and you dont need him to cut you down by telling you that crap about bigger hips and thinner waist.

Answer 10

Let him wish on and you just be you and happy with you. If you are not what he wants, then maybe you should find someone that will appreciate you for you. God Bless.