I am 18 and basically all through high school when i tell people that i am saving myself for marriage the make it seem like i am Mrs.Holier than thou. A lot of teenagers look at it like i am a gil who just has noooo fun. i dont think i have to have sex to have fun. Plus in my opinion ending up with a child, four children and mutliple baby daddies, or an STD is not fun. I think sex is more than a just a physical connection with another person and i only plan to share my body withy only one person in my life. To bad my peers dont see things that way.
2007-06-18 01:36:34 · 25 answers · asked by LayLay 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There was a time when I was 14 that I was considering it. Thats was like the age when all girls where havi ng sex. Thank God I didnt because a lot of friends and asocicates who lost theres around that time are now pregnant. A lot of females got pregnant in my high school.
2007-06-18 01:58:44 · update #1
I'm sitting here reading the responses and I noticed something rather funny. The people who have said anything negative, like it's a crime, or it's fun are all so young that they have no life experience to back them up. Perhaps if they had the courage to listen to the comments of everybody else, they would grow up and have good lives, not lives that are continually striving to make up for regretful actions.
I'm proud of you, that's all I really wanted to say. It doesn't require strong religion to have strong morals. Just a good sense of right from wrong. WTG chick-a-dee. You won't regret it.
2007-06-18 03:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gleebicus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what youre doing is right. I might sound like a looser but its really worth it being a virgin until you get married. I was a virgin until I was 24. I thank god that I was able to keep my virginity until I got married. Now Im 36, my wife and I have 5 boys and she is pregnant with the 6th little bundle of mischief. It makes it easier to be honest and loyal to your future partner. Also if you do loose your virginity then there is always a possibility that you can get STD's or pregnant and that would be something you regret in the future. Youre in safe hands and will become a very trustworthy partner in the future. Dont give in to peer pressure because you know that you are on the right side and because the majority is wrong they just try to pull you in with them. Be Strong and Good Luck.
2007-06-18 05:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Pa of 6 Boys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off...good for you!
Sex seems to be the "thing" to do. If you do it...somehow you are cool and all that BS. I'm 23, I had sex when I was still in High School and regardless of that, Ihave always been quite proud of my friends that saved themselves. I didn't do it because it was "so cool", I did it because I thought he loved me (8 months together). Some gave in to the temptation once they hit 18 or so, which is fine by me. At least they knew the consequences and used protection on both sides.
You should be proud to save yourself. The older we get, the more and more a guy out there is more than happy to take on a virgin than a non virgin for a girlfriend. Plus you also have the knowledge that it's not just a physical thing between the two of you once you are married. A coworker of mine and her husband were both virgins and I say good on them!
2007-06-18 02:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Harley 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh.... It's so refreshing to see someone say this. I TOTALLY know how you feel. I was in college and did an article for my college newspaper on how I wanted to wait till I was married to have sex. A lot of kids were very much like what you have experienced.
A lot of kids now-a-days aren't taught by their parents to wait till they are married. A lot of kids don't get the "sex talk" at all. Plus... in todays society, we see so many people bed hopping and make this look "cool". So... teenagers want to do the cool thing.
I have to tell you that... it tough to do what you are doing but... I am so glad to see you doing this. It's hard but... hang in there. It's totally worth the wait. Don't let anyone's words make you change your mind.
2007-06-18 05:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by Operator 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore what others are saying or their reaction. I think it is wonderful. I was a girl who got tired of all the fuss and decided to see what it was all about, now I realize what a dissapointment my first time was. It was suppose to be special, instead it was in a vehicle on a dirt road...so much for romantic, huh? You mentioned getting pregnant and STD's, honestly in this day and age, getting pregnant is the least of your worries, the STD's should be at the top of your list.
Stick to your morales and just ignore the others, but don't be rude or hateful to them for the choices they have made, they will realize what they missed, if they haven't already.
2007-06-18 02:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your decision is a smart one. Those girls may feel that the choices you make, may make them look bad. Or perhaps they regret it. No matter what the reason, they are in no position to judge you. When you have a plan in life having sex can most definately alter that plan. Risking yourself isn't a smart move in this stage of your life, and you know this. I think it is incredible what you've accomplished, just making it this far. So those peers that have negative things to say may think twice when they are in a position that isn't a great one. Good for you!
2007-06-18 02:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well done for not giving in to peer pressure. For most teenagers having sex is a way of feeling 'grown up'. They do not want to be the last one of there group of friends to have sex. It is totally to do with peer pressure and 'being seen as cool!'. We are hearing more nowadays about young people like yourself who are saving themselves for that special person, but unfortunately like you say the majority of teenagers cannot wait to be rid of there virginity and anyone that is still a virgin is seen as boring and weird.
2007-06-18 01:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by claire 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yah! I'm also wondering why they're doing those kind of stuff. I think being a virgin is the best gift you can give for your husband on your honeymoon. And your correct! There are lots of fun things that can be done other than having sex.
2007-06-18 02:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by someone 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who knows...I asked the same question at your age and decided to see what all the fuss was about. It was SO dissapointing! Long story short, sex didn't become fun until I was in my mid 20s, at which time I'd had a baby at 19, got married to the father (my first) out of a sense of responsibility, and then divorced that father for my sanity. You are wise to wait.
2007-06-18 01:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mara 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Good going!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad to hear from a teenager who uses her head for the right thing!!!
I sure wish more teenage girls were like you!
The ones having sex, really early, are just jealous of you. They know they've made mistakes, had what they considered fun and probably unwanted children and diseases - now who's having the better life................YOU!!!
A female should only share her body with one person and that's it.
2007-06-18 04:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋