Torn between my best friend and my academic related decision?

Question

I'm totally at lost on what to do now, I hope you guys could share some views on this issue.

So I have several subject that I only need to pick one. I decided to choose one earlier on and my best friend wanted to took that subject too just because I was there, so we both would had a partner. Now I realize that the subject wasn't the best choice for me. But my friend couldn't take the other choice I now wants to take, due to his course requirement.

So I now I'm kind of in a "damned if I do, damned if I don't" situation. If I carry on, I felt I might fails this subj. But if I change now, I'd be breaking a promise I made to my best friend, leaving him alone in that subject now, I don't know how he's gonna take it.

If you were in this situation, what would you do? Thanks for your views =)

Answer 1

Ok. Take it from a girl who has lots of friends. Explain to your best friend that you need to change subjects. Don't forget to say that u think u will fail if u don't. If your friend is a really true friend, they will undersatnd! Like, 3 of my bffs are taking orchestra and i wanted to take band. That doesn't mean i have to take orchestra bc they are! I stuck with band and u know wat we found out? They practice at the same time, in the same room! lol. So we aren't even going to be seperated. That goes to show u that one class different doesn't matter, so don't stress! Your not all gonna have the same classes or electives or whatever! You can still be good friends with different classes.

Answer 2

I'm going to talk like a guru on drugs here, so please bear with me.

The answer is simple yet so hard to do. Follow your heart on what you want. See it this way: If you stay in the course, you fail, waste a lot of money and time and effort, and may get held back on your schooling. Plus you'd be doing something you're not really interested in. But you still have a friend.

If you don't stay in the subject, you're shifting to a new one, where you could have fun, enjoy yourself, pass the subject and get on to the next level, closer to your dreams. But you have one friend who might be angry at you.

Try to talk things out with him. Whatever the outcome, always think that it should be for the benefit of two bodies. If you want to get another subject and he gets mad, it's his problem, not yours. He'll come around. If he doesn't, whack him in the head to drill some sense into him.

Answer 3

This is YOUR future we're talking about. It's important that you find the right subjects to suit you, not someone else. I think you should sit down with your friend and be totally honest. This might mean a possible career choice for you and you have to find the one that is right RIGHT NOW! I know you said you promised your friend, but sometimes you have to make that stand, for yourself. Friends should understand these things, not get angry at you for changing your mind. After all, you're not joined at the hip but you will be if you don't make a break for it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Your friend isn't a friend if he/she would want you to fail a subject just to stay with them. You need to make the decision that is best for you and your academic career. Your friend should be understanding enough to see that it is for the best. Your friend should want to see you succeed. You two more then likely will not have all of the same courses in the future so what then change majors.

Answer 5

In life you have to do what's best for you. If your friend is a true friend he'll understand when you explain it to him. He can't live your life for you and if the other class is better for you, take it.

Here's another thought, though. If you're changing classes only because you think you might fail this one, maybe you want to challenge yourself and actually pass it. What an accomplishment that would be. Something to think about.

Answer 6

I really think that you should pursue the course that you're interested and good at. I know it is difficult to choose but this concerns something that you'd be doing for the next few years.

My best friend's brother wanted to do engineering but he went into IT because his best buddy was there. That was 5 years ago and now he's back in school studying engineering.

Best wishes!

Answer 7

Have a good talk with your friend, and gear him towards agreeing with you about making your own choice in terms of your course decisions.

A truly good friend would understand, but you need to play your part to communicate and tell him genuinely that you truly regret that you feel you have to leave him alone in that course.

Answer 8

explain the situation to your friend. make sure you tell him how bad you feel about it. try to get him to agree that you need to change courses. if he wont agree then you need to make a final decision - obviously you need to go with the best long term career option - invite him to swap to your new course with you. keep in mind if things changed for him a little down the track if you stayed in his course you could well find that he has pulled out leaving you all alone in a course you dont want to be in.

Answer 9

Who's life are you living? It sounds to me that your friend is only there for the fun or what ever. You need to figure out your own goals and what you need to get there. Can you afford to flunk? If you friend can't understand that then it may be time to find a new friend.

Answer 10

If it were me, I would be open and honest w/my friend and explain the situtation. The class isn't going to work out for me and I have to change. I would apologize for things not happening as we had planned and offer to help them out on any homework or studying.

If your best friend is a true friend, then they will understand.