i b with my fella nearlly 6 years and we have 2 daughters who are 4 and 2, he does nothing at all, does not help with the kids, or housework, does not want to work, yet before kids he was working till he got sacked, and he was more excitin,
2007-06-17 23:54:43 · 19 answers · asked by gemma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
God he is lazy poor u mmmm... difficult Ahhh got it go on stike for a week leave instrutions and go on a spa week that would be cool. C how he likes it. Gd luck on your spa week lol
2007-06-18 00:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by pottermad160 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it go on any longer, talk to him, if he doesn't want to listen, help or try and get a job then it may be time to move on.
Hard I know but I spent 17 years living like that, although he worked, he didn't help with the kids or house and spent most of his free time endulging his hobbies and in all that time I worked full time too there was no give and take just take on his part until I decided I'd had enough (various other reasons too) and left.
I'm much happier now, the kids are happier, only one wage but we manage ok and I'm in a new relationship aswell.
Don't let him walk all over you.
2007-06-18 00:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, some people take kindness for weakness. If you do them a favour and help them out they take this as an indication that you will do it over and over and over again. Break the cycle by telling them that this is the last time you will help them out and that they'd better be prepared to do it themselves next time.
Secondly, when a man loses his job it can be emasculating and make him feel useless especially if it seems the woman is coping fine without him. Get him to enrol in a training course or hobby or get him to take the girls to a hobby (ballet, piano, gymnastics, football whatever). Get him to get his esteem back.
2007-06-18 00:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by *In constant wonder* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men get lazy. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years now and he's not lazy by any stretch of the imagination. Sounds like your man needs a wake-up call.
2007-06-18 01:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sure why he is like that. Perhaps he is depressed or is feeling like family life is too much for him to handle. Have you tried to talk to him in a loving way as his wife to find out what is going on? If you come to him upset and angry he is not going to let you in. If you come to him with true concern for his well being you may be able to get him to let you know what is really going on in his head and is causing this.
2007-06-18 00:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i msorry to hear about your bloke he needs a good kick up the back side to get himself motivated again(dont worry im sure hel get there) my bloke does everything plays with kids, house work, work. we really appreciate eachother and respect each other, that way it works well and were both happy.hes a postman so hes home at 1pm, we have time in the day for eachother too.
2007-06-18 00:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they start taking you for granted. It's in their nature. The trick is to keep your own life and interests alive. You are clearly not the centre of his world, so why is he yours?
I would (seriously) kick him out til he came back with a job. Why should we support your children?! Get tougher - and you'll get a better quality of life for you and your children!
2007-06-17 23:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you do the less he will.Problem now he is so used to the routine of doing nought he has become vegitated.I can tell you now it will be hard to shake him back into action. But it can be done i had very similar with my husband.
2007-06-18 00:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by clutterbuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be generally phrased as follows 'Do you keep running after you've caught the bus?'. Thing to do is throw him off for not paying the fare.....
2007-06-18 00:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by eriverpipe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum, I never had that problom with mine. He likes to work and is active in his children's lives. We've been married 20 years.
2007-06-17 23:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋