is there any types of people you distance yourself from? is it good to do this? why would one do this?

Question

plus are you '' elusive''? difficult person to reach,? hard to contact and get hold of?
why is this the case with you?

Answer 1

Hey Coop:

Yes there are people who I distance myself from. Some are family (immediate and extended) and aquaintences also.

I have learned that it is ok to distance yourself from certain people if they are not good for your mental health. It took me a long time in therapy to believe that even though some of my family are very toxic to me (a danger, emotionally) but they are my family...I learned that it doesn't matter who they are because if they are toxic and hurting me emotionally then I need not surround myself with them to have the progress I have made in myself be crumbled and I have a huge set back and have to start all over. NO, if they are toxic to me, then I avoid them and distance myself from them as much as possible.

Be safe and be well

Answer 2

It's natural to feel closer to some kind of person and distant to another. The ones with who you identify yourself are more likely to be the ones with you want to get close, by the other end there's no problem in getting away from people with who you don't feel good, it's a choice that we do every day. If it is good? Definetely! When you grow up you create your identity and that is based in your education, your family, your values, your friends and the groups that you belong, the society that surrounds you, everything. These people will have a big influence in who you are going to be, although there's always freel will and your judgement...
It's natural to "select" the ones that are going to be part of your life and the ones that are not going to, everybody does that so don't worry and take your time, choose wisely.
If I am a difficult person to reach? It's depends, I'm good at "reading" people, it doesn't mean that I don't make bad judgements, I do, rarely but I do, like everybody. I can make myself "approachble" or not, if I like what I see I but my guard down, I if don't like I don't let that person get close, it's a choice, good or bad it's something. I am a very confident person, I have a great self esteem and I don't like the ones that are always with negative thoughts, that thing is contagious! Get away from them, is my advice. Positive thinking helps you to get things done and to be happy. And trust yourself, make your own calls and defend them always, don't let others run your life.
You may think that I'm a difficult person to get along, if you thought that you're wrong, everybody comes to me one they have a problem or need help, and why? Because I trust myself and when they are with me, for at least that moment, they trust themselfs to. And of course you need luck, everybody needs a little bit of luck in life.
A lot of people love me and a lot more hate me... it's their loss!

Answer 3

I tend to distance myself from negative people, as it seems to rub off on me. I also get annoyed with "helpless" people, who have the "woe is me" persona. I don't know why, maybe because my job is about helping people, so I don't want to keep working in my social time.
I can sometimes be difficult to reach, and this is because sometimes I just need my space and others might not appreciate this, so I just turn my phone off for a few hours. In my experience, if you say to someone that you're just not in the mood to chat, they get offended and think you don't like them or whatever, and I hate offending people I care about.

Answer 4

I distance myself from people who try to get alot of information out of me,, for example getting instant messages like this from a distant friend :,, "are you still talking to chris?, when is that last time you saw john?,, Going on vacation soon? where and with who"?

I also keep away from jealous people or any types that make jokes about me and then say "just kidding" and people who find fault in things i do.

Answer 5

I am not elusive but I do distance myself from the following types of people:
1. dirty filthy people who do not keep themselves clean
2. violent people
3. criminals
4. hateful mouthy people
5. users
6. druggies

and yes its good to do this. I am exercising my right to decide who gets to be in my sphere just like everyone else can do if they choose

Answer 6

Anyone who makes you feel bad, or who is hurting you and your progress, should definitely be avoided. I found out my mother was effecting me and had to distance myself from even her. It doesn't matter who they are or how your "supposed" to feel about certain people, you at least should distance yourself from even your own family until you can get yourself together, if they are effecting you in a negative way.

Answer 7

i distance myself from self obsessed people. i dont know, for some reason they irritate me a lot. i like people who are down to earth and modest about their possessions even when they know they are the best.
i am not a difficult to reach person but i am easily lost by people whose attitude doesn't click me...

Answer 8

yes, I try to distance myself from too pessimistic people,they might get to me and really affect my mood and my perspective,and I think it is a good thing to do.However,I am an outgoing person & not hard to reach, I don't like to be otherwise :)

Answer 9

i distance myself from people I feel are negative influences in my life. It's all on my judgement. I guess I am sort of hard to reach but I don't worry one bit.

Answer 10

There are many noisy and troublesome people who are a weariness to me. Why should I seek their company? Also there are those whose thoughts smell like raw sewage to me. I wish nothing to do with these either.