But I think she is a lesbian or bi. What should I do as her brother, should I tell her something, I can't talk to her at the moment because she is on vacation with her bf for a week and I dont know her number. I just recently found she was a lesbian/bi, what should I do, she seems so happy with her bf. But I sometimes see her crying at nights sometimes.
2007-06-17 20:12:36 · 10 answers · asked by Chance 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I tinkered with her old laptop and found some lesbian videos...
2007-06-17 20:21:54 · update #1
It may be a good idea to talk to her about the crying at night. Everything else is just speculation and lesbian videos on her laptop could be there for a number of reasons and even if it was her lesbian pornography on her computer does not mean she isn't happy with her BF.
Tell her you've seen her crying sometimes and say that you are concerned for her, especially if she has fears about the wedding. Keep her sexuality out of it unless she decides to tell you.
Be a supportive brother, let her know you are concerned about her.
2007-06-17 20:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is bi, then she is with the man she loves. No problem there. If she is lesbian, she should not be getting married to a man.
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Do you think if she is bi that she has the right to have an affair with a woman after she is married? No, no more than a straight person is. Bi simply means she has twice as many people to pick ONE partner from.
If she is lesbian, then she is doing the wrong thing by marrying a man. She will only be unhappy and later make him unhappy when they divorce down the line. She should not mess up another human's life that way.
Wait until she gets back to ask her what is up. I don't know if she'll tell you. Maybe knock on her door at night when you hear her crying and tell her you think you know her secret. And, please, to talk to you about it.
2007-06-18 03:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I can say for you to do is to talk to her. Let her know that you support her and that you want her to be happy. Tell her that you saw her crying and you are concerned. Just talk to her in a caring way. It isn't important if you disagree with her being a lesbian or bisexual, just be there for her.
2007-06-18 03:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe the lesbian videos belong to her boyfriend? You should talk to her because she cries at night, and just listen, not because you think she's a lesbian.
2007-06-18 03:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. If she wants to get married, let her. Maybe the vacation with the bf is to set things right
2007-06-18 09:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's your sister. You two need to look out for each other. When you get a chance, talk to her about the crying and the porn.
2007-06-18 10:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you... I would just calmly talk to her about it... Tell her that as her brother you are just looking out for her... My sister is the first one that i "came out" too.... She may admit her feelings before making a mistake (not that her marriage is a mistake) idk if it is or not... Only she Knows... But you can help her with the decision
2007-06-18 03:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Dazzed&Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is bi then she might be happy with her Bf
She may not be crying about her sexuality. . .Who knows, unless you ask her.
2007-06-18 03:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! Could you please clarify why you have teh suspision that she is bi or a lesbian?
2007-06-18 03:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out and let her live her life
2007-06-18 03:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋