Should I stop or continue being a gay?

Question

I got a gf before but now I prefer men. I always like men but still planning to have family later.
I am happy being a gay right now but I am thinking only what will happen to me later if I become old? Should I stop or continue being a gay? Help me please.

Answer 1

You should follow your heart. Are you gay because you connect with men better sexually or are you with men because you are romantically connected to them. Sex will die, romantic connection can last 4ever

Answer 2

I dont think you can switch off being gay and then lead a heterosexual life. You are either born gay or otherwise-it is not a lifestyle you can choose. That said I think you should just be yourself and enjoy your life. I have seen many married men trapped in unhappy marriages and having gay sex on the side. That's very selfish to his wife and children.

Try to join some support group and you wont feel so all alone and helpless. Good luck.

Answer 3

"Should I stop or continue being a gay?"
You have to ask yourself this question. Be honest with yourself. No one can "stop" being gay, straight, or bi. If you prefer men and you plan to have a family later on in life, you can have both.

..."what will happen to me later if I become old?"
You're thinking of the old traditional family. We're living in modern times--you have so many options and can have a happy family life without sacrificing your comfort. It's up to you to choose who and what ultimately makes you happy and satisfied IN ALL ASPECTS. You don't have to make any compromises or sacrifice your sexuality to live a happy life. And contrary to conformist beliefs, being gay does not necessarily mean you will send mixed signals to your child(ren). Mixed signals result from lack of communication. Communication is key to understanding.

Think of yourself first. Refrain from making decisions out of fear (whether it be fear of rejection, lonliness or anything else). You need not worry about potentially bad things happening to you because you are gay or your children being uncomfortable and rejecting you because of it. Simply love yourself, your child and your partner. Establish and keep grounds for communication open and you'll have a loving family.

Whether you prefer men over women, you can be attracted to both genders. In either case, sexuality is IRRELEVANT when forming a family. Remember you are free to choose. There's no need to worry.

Answer 4

If you are not already so deeply assimilated into "gay lifestyle" that you feel you no longer have the ability to MAKE a choice, I would go the traditional route if I were you, before it's too late. You are wise to consider your future, and the long-term consequences of your lifestyle choice. Settling down with a woman, and raising that family with HER, is by far the more socially acceptable way to go, no matter what anyone else tells you!

Answer 5

you should definately NOT stop being gay. that shouldnt even be a question. im glad you have finally came to terms w/ that. just because your gay doesnt mean you cant hav a family or anything else a heterosexual person has. before i came to terms w/ myself, i tryed datin girls...but it just didnt feel right. i didnt feel happy w/ my life. thats when i finally admidted to myself that i was gay. ALWAYS be yourself and dont worry about others. like anyone else, when you grow old you want to be w/ that one person you love...if you try to change who you are, you might make other around you happy for a while, but you will be miserable for ther rest of your life. here is a perfect quote that i love that will explain things better:

"ITS BETTER TO LOVE YOURSELF & HAVE OTHERS HATE YOU THAN TO HAVE OTHERS LOVE YOU AND HATER YOURSELF."


hope i could help :)

Answer 6

First of all I do not believe that one "chooses" their sexual orientation. I do agree that if you have been happy in heterosexual relationships that perhaps you are bisexual. If that is the case then be bisexual and when the right person comes along, either he or she, then you will be happy. Homosexual couples are completely capable of having families as well as anyone else. You don't want to become "old" and be with someone you are not happy with either way. Calm down, explore you sexuality, and then go with it!

Answer 7

you can,t stop being gay thats crazy you will always prefer men if you want a family look into adoption don,t just use a woman to give you a baby be who and what you are! it sounds like your not being honest with yourself

Answer 8

you should go with your heart. if you have always like men then you are gay and there is nothing wrong with that.
lots of gay couples have children so you dont have to turn straight to have a family. just keep being gay and living your life the way you feel is happiest.

Answer 9

How can you just stop being gay? You will still feel the way you feel deep down. I think you just need space from being with someone of any sex to work it out for yourself. I hope you find the answer.

Answer 10

I think if you are planing on having children. You better be sure first it wouldn't be fair to the children. To have a parent who gives them mixed signals about how things really are. By what you say here I can't tell if your female or male. You say you had a girlfriend before but prefer men. I say stick to what you know yourself to prefer.

Answer 11

Do what you want. I don't know if that can be controlled or not.

If you control the situation, think of your future and do whatever you think you can handle.

Do not get married and start a family, only to leave them later for a man.

But also do not continue on the road you are on if you are not sure of it.