Would you say that gender doesn't matter when it comes to love? If she was still gay and had no interest in any other guys and was still attracted to girls, would it be that unusual for her to have feelings for a guy who had a lot of things in common with her if they were both really eccentric? It's probably rare, but I'm wondering, does that happen sometimes, or is this just a one in a billion thing? Also, would some people think it was strange/wrong?
2007-06-17 18:56:32 · 13 answers · asked by The Doctor 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She doesn't consider herself bisexual, since this one particular fellow is the only guy she's attracted to, and it's almost totally his personality, and he's kind of feminine to begin with. Would that still make her kind of bisexual, though, even if she didn't think so?
2007-06-17 19:03:28 · update #1
Bisexuality happens.
2007-06-17 19:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Technically, yes she would be considered bisexual. Remember sexuality is not black and white, it's a entire spectrum. Bisexuality often is not a 50/50 attraction either, often a bisexual has a preference for one gender or the other. As an example, I consider myself bisexual because even though I am primarily attracted to women I do on rare occasion find a man attractive. So I can empathize with the lady in question. I wouldn't think it was strange or wrong at all.
So to sum it up: It is possible, albeit rather rare, for someone who identifies more as being gay to fall for someone of the opposite gender.
2007-06-17 20:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure it happens.
Ani DeFranco for years dated only women, but ultimately found the one guy she felt was her soul mate...she now claims bisexuality and has come to term with it.
I also have a dear friend who was in the same situation. She had only dated women, but became attracted to this one guy...they're now married...but he's well aware of her being bisexual and has no problem with it.
Oh, and no...bisexuals are no more likely to cheat on a partner than anyone else ... gay or straight.
2007-06-17 19:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being mostly attracted to girls and a tiny bit attracted to guys (this particular guy) is still bisexual. Just not very much.
Attracted like sex/love? Or like a best friend?
2007-06-17 20:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gender is irrelevant when it comes to love, however, individuals tend to be attracted to whomever catches their eye. It isn't unusual, strange, wierd or wrong for an individual to have such feelings (unless someone believes it is from an extremist/rediculous religious point of view). Also, If an individual is gay, but had feelings for someone of the opposite sex, they would be bi, no matter how frequently they like one gender or the other, or prefer one gender over the other, or like both genders.
2007-06-17 19:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi (Shi Ge Tei) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, if someone is capable of feelings for people of the same and opposite sex, that would make them bisexual.
Some bi's like to be with one or the other gender more often. They don't have to be 50/50 to count as one. Many are even monogamous.
2007-06-17 19:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask one of the most difficult questions of all, one I've been trying to solve myself for ten years. See, my gay "boyfriend" and I are true soul mates; we are seemingly as "close" as we can possibly be, emotionally. But in the PHYSICAL sense, he has constructed an invisible, yet impenetrable wall between us. My feeling all along has been that if he REALLY "loves" me, that should override the gay in him. Apparently, that isn't the case, and we stay in perpetual conflict over it. In spite of it all, neither one of us is willing to "let go". It's incredibly complex.
So if this girl is as committed to being gay as my gay "boyfriend" is, I'd say chances of anything more than a deep friendship happening are slim to none, based on my own experience. When a gay person professes to "love" someone of the opposite sex, chances are their interpretation of this concept are not the same as our own. Of course, everyone is different, and maybe he can "beat the odds" with her, after all. I just wouldn't bet on it, that's all.
2007-06-17 20:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it's a very good possibility that your attracted to him, cuz he's a lil bit feminine.
i recently found out that some lesbians tend to be attracted to some guys, based off there interests as well as the masculinity and/or femininity.......it's not un-common.
2007-06-17 19:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by david m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, tough question, but here is my approach. I believe that if you are entirely homosexual that you generally won't find yourself attracted to the opposite . Yeah you can't control who you like, but at the same time homosexuals find it hard to be attracted to the same .
2007-06-17 19:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Breezy Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but she won't stick with him for long because she's still attracted to women. If you're the guy forget it or you're going to get hurt!
2007-06-17 19:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋