HELP! WAHT DO YOU THINK?& WHAT WOULD YOU do?.....?

Question

well I have some questions and I need some answers-
-is it bad for a 13year old to go out with a 16year old?
-how do you know its love that your feelling for a nother person?...I know I really like him and I feel that I am falling in love! He says he's falling in love to!
-We have been thinking and we thing we wont to have a baby!don't say i'm to young and what not because I don't wont to here it we have money that is are own we could be living in a nice house and be taking care of our lovely baby! He is a wonderfull guy!!..

Ps. the baby thing has nothing to do with sex!

Answer 1

Okay first things first. It is not bad for a 13 and 16 year old to be together. Just watch out though, you might have noticed this already, but some guys only want you for things. I obiously do not know you or your boyfriend, but just be careful. I think every girl has been used at one point or another. Secondly, love is love. I am 17 and have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years. We tell each other we love each other, but both of us know that we just have 'puppy love'. You know all about the butterflies feeling and thinking about a boy all day long and not being able to get him off of your mind. I think that if it is love not only you, but me too will know it for sure when it comes. As for the baby, just think long and hard. You have to ask yourself these questions-will your guy stay with you all of you, and your childs life? how will you guys get a house together if neither of you are 18. You have have have to be 18 to even put a down payment on a house, unless you get a parent to co-sign.--Do you really want to give up your adolecent years raising a child, when you should be partying, and having fun at the movies and stuff? Think about it that way. Do you really want to stay up all night with a crying baby? and you have to set up a baby sitter if you two are not out of school. having to wake up an hour early to get your baby ready, and drive it to the sitters. having a baby pretty much makes your sex life dissapear. If you enjoy having sex you probably will not see much of it if you have a baby. You will either be taking care of it, or too tired from taking care of it. I think personally I would take my time before I had a baby, I want to mooch off of my parents as long as possible. Its you're decision, not mine, but just consider all of this you know? Have fun, and good luck with your boyfriend.

Answer 2

Honestly, if you have to come on here and ask strangers, there is a problem. If you are thinking about having a baby in the next couple years, then that is way way too soon and can leave you with mental and physical health problems in the long run. If you are thinking about further in the future. There are many many what if's and could be's in life. Take your time and see what happens. You shouldn't even be worrying about these things for another 7 years at least. Finish school, get a little life experience then see what happens. Besides how much $$ could a 13 year old have to buy a house and support a family?

Answer 3

My son's father is 3 years older than me and I really don't see a problem with the age thing. As far as love this is something only you and your heart knows. You can never be too sure. Honestly between you and I, I realize what I felt was love for sure the night before I went into labor with our son. Ok now I wont say you are too young to have a baby because I know how that feels. Just listen to what I have to say please. Everyone is different. I got pregnant at 17 had him at 18. I am 20 now and things are still hard. Money is never really the issue being a parent is hard period. My son is a year and a half and I still wake in the middle of the night to make sure he's breathing. I dropped out of high school and I just recently finished high school and start college next month. No one is ever fully ready for a baby! If it's meant to be then you'll have a baby and hopefully you'll be a great teen mother. To me based on your question you seem ready for the world. I'm sure you have a lot of world to see still at 13 but if you end up pregnant make sure you completely think it through. I think you have to be 18 to have an apartment I'm not sure but hey he has 2 years. Anyways just think everything through and I'm sure regardless what you decided it'll be the best decision you make either way you choose. Good luck sweetheart. And yes in my opinion it sounds like love even though you didn't say too much about it.

Answer 4

I had a friend who was in ur situation, she said they wanted a baby n they had the kid, she was 13 he was 16 . Turns out she thought he was a great guy, they had the baby, they lived together for 1 YEAR N COULDN'T STAND EACH OTHER ANYMORE!!! He moved to another city n she hasn't seen him since. She had her inheritnce from her granparents, but that ran out soon since she was paying all the bills and EVERYTHING for her son. She just graduated from high school and she is working 3 jobs (minimum wage $5.15/ hr) and she has no idea how she is going to pay 4 her college education. Yes it is bad 4 a 13 yr old and a 16 yr old to go out. He wants to get in ur pants n nothing else. He is at an age where his hormones control him, it's probably not love what u feel it's infatuation. Also do u know the kind of changes a woman's body goes through when having a baby? Do u want to miss out on all those high school parties n college parties? Do u want to stay up all night with a sick + fussy baby? If ur dream is to make ur life as difficult as u can, then go ahead. If this supposedly "wonderful guy" really loves u, he can wait. If he doesn't want to wait, don't waste ur time with him, a real man would respect ur wanting to wait. What grade r u in, ur inlike 7th or 8th aren't u? Think about, u have a kid at this age, what if ur kid had a child at this age too, how would u feel?? I bet u wouldn't feel so good. don't b stupid, wait.

Answer 5

-is it bad for a 13year old to go out with a 16year old?- Not too bad but I think 13 is a bit young to date anyone
-how do you know its love that your feelling for a nother person? Tricky question, theres all different kinds of love, love at such a young age can feel very strong but don't be fooled into thinking its something that will last. You have all these hormones running through you affecting how you feel . You could just be very in "LIke" with someone. Real and true love lasts and lasts not days or months but years and years.. Don't get me wrong I am not saying you can't be in love at your age just be careful not to confuse hormones and lust with love.First love is a great thing, enjoy it ( but not too much if you get me!)
He says he's falling in love to!-( could be he really likes you, could be he's trying to get in your pants. Boys this age are walking hard ons and will tell you whatever you want to hear in order to get you to give it up.
-We have been thinking and we thing we wont to have a baby!- Too bad not wanting me to say you arent too young! You are! I was 20 when I had my first and that was still too young. Babies are human beings! Not dolls! They are not all cuteness and sweetness all the time, they are hard work! Take my word for it. I have babysat since a very young age and have had two of my own. Don't tie yourself down right now, you may think you are grown now but you are still a child yourself.There are so may things I wish I had done before having kids. Go to school, finish college, travel then make damn sure the person you are having a child with is someone you want to stay with and has the qualities of a good father and husband before you have kids with them. Seperation and divorce are awful for the kids more than the parents. I hope you will take my advice and benefit from my experience. Don't let yourself get so caught up in your feelings that you lose all your good sense. He may well be a prince of a guy but give yourselves the opportunity to grow up. As for your dream of a house to raise your lovely baby in, I dont know where you live but in most places you have to have a darn good job to afford an apartment let alone a house unless you want to live in a slum. You want to have the best possible situation to bring a kid into, don't make a child suffer because you are in "love" and want to play house. If you have ever known what it is like to do without you do not want that for your child. Please use your brain! You look so young in your picture! Let yourself have a childhood, don't be so quick to grow up. There are a lot of things I would do differently if I could go back. Don't do something you will regret. Babysit an infant if you want contact with one so badly. You will find that they are a lot to handle. One final thing, if I found out my 13 year old was having sex I would have a stroke. I really really would.

Answer 6

Love is a powerful word. Your feeling that you falling in love with some 16 yr old boy it's butterflies what your feeling and your 13 you don't need to be loving no boy right now boys come and go and break your heart. Same goes with boys girls come and go and break there hearts. And just because you might have some money some adult ain't going to just give a house for one your too young to even sign for a house or apartment. Girl your thinking like i can do this and that your only 13 quit trying to act all growing up cause your not. You have plenty of time to grow up do fun stuff with your friends and finish school you don't need to be thinking about love,sex raising a baby that comes later.

Answer 7

- Yes 16 year olds are so much more mature than a 13 year old. They can take advantage of the 13 year old really easy. Why would a 16 year old go out with a 13 year old except for them being able to pressure you into doing things.
- You need to have lots of experience dating other guys to tell if you are in love.
- DON'T HAVE A BABY. You are 13... barely a teenager. You should have fun not be raising a baby! He says he will be there for you if you have a baby but he wont. Dont do it

Answer 8

You want a child at 13 years old? That doesn't make sense. Do me a favor. Set your alarm for every 50 Min's for a month, and see if you can get up. Once your up I would like for you to pat your pillow for 20 Min's and walk around your bed room for another 15Min's. Put a set a headphone on during this process with a new born crying in your ear. Oh ah and on the weekends when your family is at the lake having fun, stay home with your baby because the sun isn't good for a newborn. Write back in a month and tell me how things went. If you pass then congratulations!

Answer 9

FIRST of all, you need to finish high school before you even think about having a kid. Your spelling is terrible. When you have a baby you want to be able to support it, and having a baby costs alot of money. You will need at least a high school education. How do you expect to support your baby? Flipping burgers for minimum wage won't get you very much money, and even if you and your boyfriend both have a job with your education it definitely won't be enough money to buy a house, food, clothes, diapers or anything else that you "dream" of having. How will you pay for the doctors visits? It can easily cost over $100 each time to go to the doctor. When my sister had a baby the doctors and hospital bills were at least $5,000.00. Are you expecting your parents to help you? What kind of mom would you be if you have to rely on your parents to support your baby because you can't? You need to finish high school and think about a baby no sooner than after that.

Answer 10

I have always dated older. It's more of a maturity thing, girls really are more mature than guys are at the same age.
Love is not something you can really explain, no offense, I doubt that's what you're feeling right now. At 20 I can now recall being in "love" several times. :p
Honey, you don't want to have a baby. Not at this age. I have a five month old myself that I wouldn't trade for the world. However, I do sometimes miss my old carefree, irresponsible life. Not only would it not be fair to you to get pregnant and miss out on being young, it's also not fair to the baby. My boyfriend and I plan on raising our daughter together; we both work and attend college and are trying our best to raise a successful, well adjusted adult. But not all parents our age are like this. Most of them allow their own parents to raise their child, while the only thing they're raising themselves is hell. This is one of those things where unless you're actually in the situation, you have no idea.
Also, you're underestimating how expensive it is to live on your own, especially with a baby! And men aren't always as wonderful as they may seem. I just got lucky.
You need birth control pills. He needs to wear a condom.
Stay at home with your parents and enjoy it as long as you can. I wish I had.