Is there some kind of mental illness that causes you to forget outbursts or evil comments ?

Question

from the time i was 10 my mom would say cruel , mean things to me ,or lash out in huge outburst and slap on me, she has NEVER treated her son's like this ..at age 17 i started lashing back at her , it seemed to give her a great pleasure , as if she knew it was getting to me.. from around the time i was 17 to age 27 have ignored it , I try to act like it dont bother me , so she wont get a pleasure from it..I try to show her that she as no effect on me..Well last summer she made a comment about my infant son and i went off on her ..I told her she was crazy and a abusive mother and she wasnt gonna treat my baby like she treated me.. she said i deserved all the "punishment" i got as a kid , because i was a bad kid , I broughh up all the physical and mental abuse , and she denied it , I honestly believe in her sick head she dont remember it . as if it came so natural and it wasnt such a big deal for to even remember , as a everyday chore such as sweeping , What is the mental illness called?

actually my son was around 14 months old last summer, a friend comment he looked like me , my mother said " well knock him in the head in throw him in the river then " i bursted out in tears and went off on her , she said omg i was just kidding , then 3 days later she said it never happen .what kind of mental illness makes her do and say things then forget???

Answer 1

People who are Bipolar have outbursts and say cruel stuff they don't mean.But i dont know if they don't remember what they say.Um... i think she has a problem, but im not sure it is a mental illness, per se. Mentally ill people dont choose a specific person to be cruel to.They are not able to control there actions and there outbursts are directed to everyone.Since your mother is cruel to you and not to any of her sons, it sounds like to me that something happened to her when she was younger and you remind her of herself and when she sees you she relives whatever happened and takes it out on you.Even though this happened way before you were born and you have nothing to do with her problem she uses you as her scapegoat.I think she remembers being abusive, otherwise she would not have said "you deserved the punishment",shes blocking that from her mind and remembering what she wants to.I think she needs alot of therapy but shes in denial and probably wont go to a therapist.But its probably best to limit your contact with your mother until she decides to get help,because she will continue to take her anger out on you and your son.Whatever the outcome.You and your son do not deserve to be physically or mentally abused by anyone.This is an issue only your mother can solve when she is ready to deal with it,so DO NOT blame yourself.You have been abused by her way too long and now shes trying to hurt your son.I suggest focusing on making yourself happy and giving your son the childhood that you never had.If your not around for awhile your mother wont have anyone to vent her anger on and she might be forced to deal with her problem. Hope that helps.

Answer 2

You have some good responses so far. Mental illness can be caused by the imperfect nature of our mortal state, a biological fluke, or by substance abuse (not your case I'm sure), or by living environment such as abusive upbringing and mental compensation as a defense mechanism. Those have all been addressed by other respondents. They can be treated with medication, counseling, love and blessings. The last item is the possession of evil spirits. My maternal grandmother suffered a mental/nervous breakdown when my Mother was only three. She spent the last 15-20 years of her life in the Camarillo State Mental Hospital where she finally passed away at the young age of 61 from lung cancer of all things (she never smoked a day of her life). My mother asked her Stake leaders what they thought of the situation and they told her the evil spirit story. Just as she was nearing death, her mind cleared and she recognized my grandfather and mother which she had not done for the whole time she was in the hospital. The story was that the evil spirit, knowing that its host was dying, left and that her natural abilities could again come forth. I don't know if I believe that story or not but you can think about it for what it is worth. My grandparent were not LDS. My mother is a convert and the only member in her otherwise Protestant family. They are all good people and faithful Christians as far as they understand it. The point is that grandmother never received a priesthood blessing that could have released her from possession, if indeed that was the cause of her illness. In my own family, my wife suffered from what she described as dark influences after we got married. She had been inactive and reactivated when I met her. We were married in the L.A. temple and the influences from her inactive days were trying to reclaim her. I gave her a blessing and those influences left her and she has never been bothered by them again, more than 33 years later. So, your question does not have a simple answer. There are many factors with many potential solutions. Please know that we are aware of mental illness and treat it with love, concern and respect. There will be no need to fear rejection. I hope this helps a little bit.

Answer 3

There isn't any mental illness that explains how a mother could ever hurt her child...sick and twisted are the only words that fit. She probably really thinks what she did was okay, she has to make it your fault so it isn't her fault. For some bizarre reason people find a need to blame others for their own mistakes and screwups...she blames so it isn't her. She probably won't ever admit she was wrong. You have to find a way to heal that young girl inside of you that is hurting and wanting answers. I can say this because I am dealing with my own inner young hurt abused girl. It never makes sense and abuse shouldn't make sense! I am 32 and trying to end the multi generational abuse cycle in my family. I am in therapy which I thought for a long time was crap but now see it as my ticket to freedom of the past. If you find a good therapist, you too can let go of the past...one thing I have learned is, it doesn't matter what your mother says now, the only thing that matters is what you beleive and feel and perceive as being real and what happened. Because that is what is bothering you, it is real because for you it is real, it doesn't have to be real for your mother...it is that part of your inside that is still that young hurt girl that needs validation...get it from inside not your mother. I wish you luck in your journey. Good Luck

Answer 4

Bipolar disorder, sometimes called manic depression, is a serious illness of extreme highs and lows that tends to worsen over time if left untreated. Doctors aren't sure what causes bipolar disorder, but it often runs in families. With proper medication and therapy, it is a manageable illness.

I hope your mother seeks medical help, because she will continue to show anger outbursts towards everyone around her. Good luck.

Answer 5

Emerald is right, Bipolar will cause that. Just don't let it affect you life now. You are in control of what happens to you. There is no sense in holding grudges, they are very unproductive. Just don't allow her to be unkind to you or your son. When she starts acting that way, excuse yourself and leave her. Ther is no need to continue to argue. She is the only one that can get the help she needs.

Answer 6

Sorry i have no idea but i wish i did cos i had an X husband who treated me the same and whenever i bought it up the cruel things he'd said and done to me he would deny it!

Answer 7

Bi-polar disorder. it is a manic-depressive disorder with mood swings between the two states.(DOCTOR JECKEL & MR. HYDE)One doesn't seem to know about the other.

Answer 8

parents r like this .....their crazy and i dont think its a mental illness they just deny it cuz they cant explain why they said it..one day i wanna record my mom so i can prove it

Answer 9

My best guess is that it is selective memory