My childs mother has not allowed me to see my kid in about 6 months. I pay child support, health and dental on time every month since she was born. Custody and visitation was never established in our case. I walk on eggshells to keep her happy but its not enough sometimes. I would like to see my child whenever id like to but she dosen't allow me to. She threats to call the cops if I show up at her house. Is there anyway to be granted visitation without spending thousands for a lawyer? Is there a form to fill out or something? If anyone has any ideas PLEASE HELP. I live in Oklahoma, Tulsa County. Thanks
2007-06-17 17:33:48 · 15 answers · asked by DSGB4LYF23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In Maryland,,Its done through social services,,
Try them and see
2007-06-17 17:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by 4 strings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check to see ... I think reasonable visitation is implied and granted if not specified and not taken from you. My ex did that to me and I hired the lawyer out of the yellow pages with the most experience and the judge was asking my lawyer advice in court "seriously". You need to accept the possibility that if she wants to be a warthog and make trouble you will drive yourself insane over just a few years trying to fight her. In the end, the child is with her primarily so she has all the time in the world to teach your child to hate you. In my case, even though I fought her and won in court and she threatened to call the police on me... I concluded the child would be a weapon used by her and also in my opinion have a terrible life always being in the middle of fights so I made sure my child had my contact information and I am still waiting for my child to contact me on her own. I think you have a no-win situation but if you need to pursue this... document everything and have witnesses with you when you go to her home to get visitation. There is a thing in courts called supervised visitation that can work to the fathers advantage if the court orders it the mother is forced to transport the child to the court and you go to the court to pick up your child and return the child to the court. This protects you if the ex refuses to let you take the child or if she tries to give any excuse why you cannot take your child for visitation. There are organizations that protect fathers rights but I forgot the name.... you can look it up searching the internet or ask your lawyer.
2007-06-17 17:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is. its called modifcation of visitation support and custody. she has no right to deny you the child but since you have no orders it is hard to do. the best thing i can tell you is go to Books a million and hastings and look at some book called the child custody book how to protect your kids and win your case by Judge James W. stewert. and Moms house Dads house. Also try legal aid they may have a lawyer that will help or get a legal adviser. if you want any more info and think ai nmight be able to help you can email me through yahoo answers and I will do the best I can I am in a legal battel for my husbands step kids and we live in TX not to far from you. I also might know an attorney that might help and he will execpt payment planes.
2007-06-17 17:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop paid the support until she agrees give u visiting right u such have joint custody. put the money in a special account for the support and show it the judge and he can not call you a dead beat daddy the judge will she it ur way, this will get her upset and this is what u want to be in control she in control now and using the kids for her gain stop the money and she will listen. An u will be in control of the problem if you stop paying she will haul u back in court and u can explain to the judge for free then, so visit ur local court and ask for a child support modify for the visitation you such joint custody. as for the visit find a person or persons to pu and drop off the kids and u will not have to see each other the money will be on time and u win and she wins it about ur rights it time to man up the kids will be fine because u are there for them. peace my brother. be the king in ur baby mam ma life make her suffer not the kids she will not hold up under pressure trust me. she can call the cops for none payment
2007-06-17 18:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by eddie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST get that court order!
YOU can apply at the Legal Aid Society for financial help and do it on the grounds that she has been denying you visitation. They will NOT be able to represent her if they already have your case in hand.
Take a day off of work and get it done NOW.
Good luck. The results will only come out good if you really put the effort into getting your rights as a father.
Here is a link for Free Legal Advice.
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2007-06-17 17:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ohmyheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a family services place where you are? They might be able to help. Other than that, you will have to contact a lawyer. In Virginia, I know people have been able to work out visitation with the help of a mediator. I'm pretty sure you can't just show up and expect to see your kid with no
warning to the mother. But if you have an agreement that is reasonable, she should be expected to honor it, just like she expects you to keep the child support coming. Good Luck!
2007-06-17 17:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you guys divorce? If not, she doesn't have the right to not allowing you to see the child. If so, you can appeal to court for child visitation. Why didn't the judge give the custody to you? Is it because you were involve in adultery, bigamy? It could be many case. If you think you are more competent than your 'wife' in terms of financial, you could self-defence and say that to the judge. If you have another partner who bully kids, your child's mother could give that as an evidence. In that case, i am sure you'll lose to the child's mother. If you guys are not legally married, having a marriage cert, then i dunno what will happen.
2007-06-17 17:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by pertinacious-gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , you can probably go to where the child support was established and have the court establish visitation rights. Keep trying to do it the legal way. The court should set it up for you.
2007-06-17 17:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mbh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible (at least in Canada). Try going to the courthouse in your area and inquire there. They should be able to advise you how to go about it. Here in Canada at least. One only has to file an application in court for visitation, custody, child support etc. and you are not obligated to hire a lawyer.
Best wishes and good luck (been there and done it)
2007-06-17 17:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by mickkooz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the court house and the legal aid department ,there should be a place in there where you can find out which forms to file yourself and how to file them. you can also go to the district attorney and file a complaint, cause what she is doing violates the law, children have the right to see both parents
2007-06-17 17:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not much help but you can call the attorney general. they can help. if you can prove the money and stuff then youcan show shes violating this right of yours. but you have to have lawyer unless the attorney general can help you
2007-06-21 15:45:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋