Look my in laws want to come and see there daughter before she leaves for her 9 month tour for Iraq. She only has 2 weeks and my birthday and are one year anniversary falls in the 2 weeks.They want to come down for a week. Stay in are apartment. We only have a small one bedroom apartment my inlaws are to say the least big people. We dont have the room. They asked if they could sleep in are bed I told my wife no because were would we sleep they want us to sleep on the floor or get a air mattress. I said the last week that get to spend with my its not going to be on a futon I want my bed There is no way for the last week I'm going t I told them to get a hotel. Wife wants to go back to Ny for the next week. So she can visit her other family. This is going to be the first time that my wife is going to be gone for that amount of time. I want to spend some alone time with my wife is that to much to ask? When her parents are around I cant get a word in she just ignores me. what should I do.
2007-06-17 16:58:04 · 8 answers · asked by kewlsouth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was orginal going to take off the 12 through the 24 my wife has to be back to the ship to leave for 9 months on the 25th. She called me told me that she didnt want me to take off the time when her parents are comeing up because she wants some time with her mother alone. I dont think thats right its my vacation time to I want to spend just as much time with my wife as her mother does if not more what should I do please help
2007-06-17 17:03:24 · update #1
Never give up the marriage bed to anyone. The marriage bed is scared.
You sound reasonable. Tell them not to visit, but the wife will stay with them instead.
2007-06-17 17:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry man, but you're in between a rock and a hard place. They love their daughter and want to see her before she goes -- that is understandable... Not wanting to give up your bed -- also understandable.... What is your wife's opinion - she's the one going to Iraq - I say honor her wishes... (If all else fails could you pay for a hotel for the in-laws - I know that would suck, but you do what you have to in these situations) Hope your wife has a safe tour in Iraq.
2007-06-18 00:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by KaseyT33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is going to Iraq and she knows she may not return. You have spent time with her and she wants to spend some time with her parents, too. Give her the time with her parents and don't complain or make it difficult for her. It is too much to ask to have her choose you over her parents. Tell her you love her and let her spend time with them. Be nice and don't put her in the middle. That will only upset her. If you are nice and are nice to her parents (no matter how annoying they are), she will love you all the more!
2007-06-18 00:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a time that you need to back off. Let her parents see her before she leaves. Sometimes we have to give in, and this seems to be one of them. Talk with her and tell her how you feel when they are around, maybe when she hears how you feel she will make more of an effort to be more attentive to you. She doesn't need any stress right now, but also can fully understand how you must be feeling.
2007-06-18 00:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand where you are comming from. i'd want to spend alone time to. Maybe you should organise a romantic night for two asap at hotel and try and fix your relationship so that she wants to be with you before she goes!
2007-06-18 00:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she does not care about what you think. Get a divorce before she leaves. She does not care why stay.
2007-06-18 00:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell then enough is enough. tell them u got too much goin on for them to stay with u but they can stay at a hotel. but ur too stressed n got too much goin on for them to be cramped in the lil apt with all of u
2007-06-18 00:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to get a hotel. or better yet have your wife do it. they are imposing and assuming too much. i know it's easier said than done... but it will only get worse. let them know they are welcome but with boundries. they gave her away at your wedding to you. you are responsible for her now.
2007-06-18 00:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by jcrews 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋