my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. we are close as hell. He's like my best friend, we talk about everything and do everything together. We fight like any couple but we also make up and take good care of each other emotionally. We were supposed to leave NJ together but now I have to go ahead of him. I am nervous as hell about it! How we will feel when we're not near each other has been on my mind. It should only be for four months or so.
Has anyone on here had this sort of change in their relationship ( due to college, job relocation, family emergency etc.)?? How did it turn out? Is it possible for a relationship to go from close distance to long distance and still survive?
2007-06-17 16:39:00 · 12 answers · asked by Berta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol @ the guy who in his response called me " a teenager before puberty with hormones running wild" and i'm 25. Trust me. If I didn't think he was worth it I wouldn't be going through this much trouble I am a very strong woman who has no problem standing alone. still lol @ puberty tho.
2007-06-17 16:58:37 · update #1
I'm doing it right now with my boyfriend from college over summer, its 1500 miles difference. We were also around six months when we separated. Its been a bit over a month.
Its hard and we're figthing more, but we're getting through it, we talk online often and on the phone a few times a week. We also occasionally do mail. In a way its been really good for us because its given us distance to really talk aobut our problems and have time to reevaluate our relationship. We've done that alot, we were really good before the separation, barely any fighting, but now I think we'll be alot better after it because its given us a fresh perspective. It shows how much someone really means to you when you don't have them there to constantly remind you. It does take dedication though and a lot of patience.
Good luck!
2007-06-17 16:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent 22 years in the navy, most of it on sea duty. I deployed 9 times for an average of 8 to 12 months each time. I "dated" my wife for almost 4 years. We've been married 28 years. We've got 6 kids.
Yes, it's possible to maintain a relationship like that. It just depends on how important that relationship is to you and the other person.
2007-06-17 23:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
I am doing in right now and for a year, My husband is in the Navy, We were together for 4 years and half of it he was in Boot camp. Now we are still together and I live in Va, with him but he is always out to sea. So in that case I see him like 1 week out of my month and some times not for 4 to 5 months at a time.. If you truly love each other it will work out. But if it is just a fling or he is not truly in love with you then, it might end badly. But it has worked for me for 4 years and counting/// Good luck and hope this helps you out!
2007-06-17 23:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Celeste >> Ba Ba.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend of a year and a half are about to experience a similar thing. I am moving five hours away for college but I am going to try to come down as much as possible and see her. The love is the same, no matter how far the distance. Intimacy will take a big toll, but it will be up to you two to rebuild it after you get back.
2007-06-17 23:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by TypeA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my fiance in a chatroom, He lived in another state. It took 3 1/2 years for him to move here with me. We hope to get married next year. It's an opposite situation of yours.
However long distance can survive as long as you to let it be. I think you 2 will be fine. No worries.
2007-06-17 23:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Victorious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is real mature love then yes it well last. Remember though 6 months is not a long time to have been together. If you trust him and he you it should be fine.
2007-06-17 23:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 month and you're looking for commitment ? your emotions are running wild. your hormones are surging, you're a teenager and think you're in love ..with puberty comes these heighten feeling . closeness is not what you need now. control yourself and don't get carried away. in time you will understand what was said to you.
2007-06-17 23:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by chucky5050 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other then love will last.You still need to communicate on a daily basis for the relationship to work.
2007-06-17 23:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you the best of luck. We were best friends and married but he had to much time on his hands and got board and lonely .It didn't work for us..(sorry) if it's ment to be it will work out .
2007-06-17 23:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by noteworthy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What choice have you got? You cant spend your entire life following him around. If you worry about all the what if's and maybe's then Your going to do yours and his head in. Get ova it.
2007-06-17 23:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋