We're both in college and still somewhat dependent on our parents. our parents help us financially and we go to our houses during summer/breaks. I wanna ask her to marry me, but should I get her parents' permission first? I know they'll say yes as her dad said I'm the son he's never had. (she's an only child). I'm saving up for a ring. (i kinda lied and said i'm saving up for a car, but she'll find out in about 6 months.) Do i ask and then get the ring, or do I get the ring, show it to her parents and then ask for permission?
2007-06-17 15:02:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you already know you have her parents' permission. Maybe you could ask and her mom might be able to help you plan the perfect proposal.
Good luck!
2007-06-17 15:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by C G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are a very lucky person to have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is also a plus that her father loves you! It does not matter if you get the ring before or after if you already know her parents would say yes. Having the ring would be good because it would show her parents that you are serious about marrying her. So if you are sure that her parents will say yes then just do what you feel best and have fun planning your proposal.
2007-06-17 15:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by ca-millionare 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know they will say yes, get the ring first and then ask. It will show that 1) you are serious and 2) it will show you were actually able to save up money for a ring, despite being dependant on your parents. It will just look better.
2007-06-17 15:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Moops 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say ask the father first then after you have his permission get the ring and ask her.
My brother did this and even though the parents loved him they said they would give permission only if they did not get married until after she graduated (he was two years ahead of her) He promised and they scheduled the wedding for 08, have been engaged for a little over a year now.
2007-06-17 15:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by glbenner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to say that all who are blasting "asking permission" because it undermines the two parties involved....it is less asking permission as opposed to asking for their blessing in the matter. It is a sign of respect, and helps to get you off on a better foot with the future in-laws. It shows that you already respect their opinions.
To answer the question, talk to her father, then buy the ring, then ask her...
2007-06-17 15:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by marie's mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her dad first before you buy anything. Even though he may love you it's very respectful and goes a long way with the dads. It's a little old fashioned but why not start everything off on the right foot. Then if he totally discourages you than at least you can think about it before you go and buy the ring. Good luck and hope everything turns out ok
2007-06-17 15:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her father is old fashioned, I believe tradition states you should ask his permission first, then get the ring and ask your girlfriend last. If he is a modern man, then ask her first, but make sure you call your respective parents and tell them the good news as soon after the deed is done as possible.
Good luck, and I hope your life is a happy one. You sound like a great guy.
2007-06-17 15:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose to your girlfriend whenever you want to, but finish college before you get married. Then you won't have to ask for permission. As a father, I find the idea of asking permission to be totally weird and uncomfortable. Unless you know they have strong feelings about this, I would suggest you give up this permission idea.
2007-06-17 15:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a ring, ask for his daughters hand to wed. It is one of those traditions that shows the father how much you respect him and his daughter. Good luck with college. Hope you both the best.
2007-06-17 15:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the ring to ask her parents' permission. Get their permission, get the ring whenever, pop the question.
Congratulations! Her parents are lucky their daughter is getting such a gentleman who respects their blessing.
2007-06-17 15:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋