Im 16 and I exparimented a while ago and I dont know if its my fault or my fiancee's that when we had sex that he cant get me off but i can get him off. Protection was used!!!!
2007-06-17 14:28:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
~It does take longer for most women. I don't think he's taking the time it takes to do that for you. Tell him to slow down, and be patient with you.
Be sure and tell him what you like or simply moan when it feels good to you. Does he know that the clitoris is what he needs to make contact with? As in oral.
I wouldn't let him have an orgasm unless I had one. That should encourage him.~
2007-06-17 14:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally a guy has to develop a technique. It helps a lot if his gf can give him directions regarding what feels good, bad, and better. If he were really in love with you he'd be willing to work on the experimentation with you. If you wanted to learn about your own body, you'd experiment alone so you were more familiar with your sensations. If that's new to you, there's a book about female masturbation called "For Yourself", available in paperback (try your library) by Lonnie Barbach.
Guys typically get off reall easily, and women not so much. That's why it takes time and work, and that's why it helps a lot when BOTH people are in love. Lovers don't mind taking time.
After you learn more about your own orgasms, you may decide this guy really doesn't love you AND you don't need him. Hope it works out.
2007-06-17 21:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by jesteele1948 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't need extra attention to have an orgasm.
If you're expecting an orgasm from straight vaginal intercourse, be prepared to continue to be disappointed. Only about 20% of women can achieve a vaginal-only orgasm SOMETIMES. If you're not getting enough (or heaven forbid ANY) clitoral stimulation, chances are you will NOT have an orgasm.
So learn how to masturbate yourself, then show him, and chances are sex will be MUCH more enjoyable in the future for you.
2007-06-17 21:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is no one's fault. Many women cannot orgasm without some direct clitoral stimulation. Try stroking your clitoris when you are having sex and see if that helps. In general, I think that each partner needs to be responsible for asking or doing what feels right to help them reach orgasm.
2007-06-17 21:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kate S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't anyone's fault. Taking or assigning blame is the wrong way to approach the problem. You need to work with your partner to achieve your orgasm. You can actually talk about it and work on it together, but avoid any blaming or fault taking.
2007-06-17 21:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it's no one's fault..most women have to have clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm..try getting a vibe to use during sex..or have him touch you...trust me..it will be worth it....most guys are sensitive about not the girl nor getting off during sex becaus ethey think it's their fault...make sure you reassure him that's not the case
2007-06-17 21:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by crystalblue3300 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would learn to take care of yourself, and then you can teach your partner what you like.
2007-06-17 22:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by nicthebookchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does anyone have to be to blame? Women don't orgasm as easily as men do. That's just the way it is.
2007-06-17 21:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
no that's normal it's harder to get a woman to orgasm than a guy. my adivice would be to masturbate either during or after sex.
2007-06-17 21:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋