how do i stop thinking so low of my self?

Question

im always wondering if "that guy" is looking at me or at my friend and i get intimidated easily i always feel as if im not good enough

Answer 1

Did your parents ever physically abuse you? Do they fight, drink or gamble? I was the same way because of my parents & i had to have counselling.

Answer 2

Well thats not good. You shouldnt be thinking that way. You should never look at someone as if they are better then you. Everyone is the same no matter what appearances. Think to yourself, do you really even like or care about "that guy". You can just sit back and chill, and let the guys come to you. Dont worry over someone who may not be worrying about you. Im pretty sure you are a beautiful person so stop feeling that way.

If I didnt help you can always get some counseling. Myabe they have a better way of explaining things. Please know that no one is better then you just because they look good. Dont treat them like there more superior. Just be yourself and stop worrying. hope I helped.

Answer 3

As long as you're worried, count on it that the guy is looking at your friend. The secret is to look like you don't care. Pretend you're dripping with self confidence, even if you're not. Try it for a week: every time you find yourself worrying what somebody thinks of you, think to yourself: it doesn't matter. I know I'm wonderful, and if he doesn't, then it's his loss. You have to take this seriously...no waffling, no backsliding. Convince yourself that you're the best thing since sliced bread. If you don't feel it, ACT it. Believe it or not, with some good practice and perseverance, you'll start to feel it. And then--presto~!-- you'll become the beautiful, confident person you want to be.

Good luck : )

Answer 4

I find that realising that every person has an ugly side to them, that regardless of how they dress or act there is a ying to that yang. Also some of the best traits are found in people who have low self esteeme mainly because they try so hard, just as overconfident showoff types are overcompensating for a lack of something.

Answer 5

Don't worry about it. Stop looking for approval from guys you don't know. If you just carry yourself in a way that projects what some people call confidence, others would call it just being happy with yourself, others will notice and that will make others feel more invited to get to know you as a person.
It helps to ease the tension if you just relax. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Answer 6

I use to do the same thing. Look at yourself in the mirror. What do you like? I liked my eyes a lot. So I started telling myself that my eyes were totally goregeous and so much better than anyone else's (even if they weren't!) I started working out more and doing things that I found enjoyable like singing or maybe art. Do that. You will feel so much more beautiful and your self esteem will soar!!

Answer 7

I have actually gained alot of confidence lately by sort of being mentored by another confident person. Basically we got together on a work project and helped each other with our weaknesses. Try to find a strong person that you can help with something maybe?

Answer 8

look in the mirror everyday and say 10 great things about yourself to yourself, you'll start believing them and then as you think of more great things it'll stick and all you will have is a positive look on life and on yourself it worked for me and now my life is ah-mazing! buy clothes that make you feel comfy and just absolutely beautiful to that helps and makes people think you are more amazing than you already are. good luck and i hope i helped. your great girlie even though i don't know you your ah-mazing!

Answer 9

Not good enough for what? What are you good at? Find something that you're good at and do it. Realize how you make a difference in your community and the world.

Answer 10

HI Michelle! I'm currently going through those same kinds of issues so if you need a friend who can relate you can always talk to me! My myspace is www.myspace.com/dsnirp