My fiancee is going back to her hometown and she is going to go out and have a drink with a guy she used to like and was friends with in college, on a Saturday night she says. Should I be worried?
2007-06-17 14:13:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummm yeah you should be worried. Why did she move away if you two are gonna get married? I think if she really loved you she wouldn't go out with another guy.
2007-06-17 14:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's inappropriate. She's playing dangerous games and she knows it. You're uncomfortable and she doesn't respect that. She's only doing it because you don't have the balls to put your foot down. Try being a man sometime; it feels good.
Only a retard would think what she's doing is okay. Going out of town just so she can go out drinking late at night with an old GUY friend from college??? No way in hell would I allow that kinda crap. She's clearly looking to screw this guy before she marries you. I would tell her that if she does it the relationship is over. It's her choice.
2007-06-17 21:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your all for this I take it? Why would you allow this to happen? I don't think it's very respectful of your fiancee to be doing this. Even though she's honest about it, I would not be letting her go away and go out with an ex boyfriend for a drink. This only sets the scene of what's to come in the future!! If she's disrespecting you now what's ahead in the future?? Good Luck!!
2007-06-17 21:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all totally depends on whether the two of you have a stable relationship and know where you are heading and why. My only question to her would be why does she have to meet an ex without you? I wouldn't do it to my husband ever. So maybe the two of you need more conversation about your future together and how she perceives what is appropriate behavior and what is not. I find her behaviour inappropriate and I believe you and she haven't followed through to find out if the two of you are on the same page for your future.
2007-06-17 21:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Cheaters don't reveal that they are going out with an old friend. They're sneaky instead.
Just joke around with her. Let her know that you care by saying something like, That's not going to rekindle an old flame, is it? and say it both with humor and yet a serious look in your eyes. She will always be glad to know that you care enough to worry, as long as you don't become insecure and worrying all the time or making accusations.
2007-06-17 22:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way i look at it if two people are serious they should not be going out with someone else. It is time to get unengaged.
2007-06-17 21:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be worried if I was not married yet and am already jealous
2007-06-17 21:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, yeah !! i'm a chick and i tell you this is not o'k lay down the law or leave her!!that is sooo not cool and even worse that she told you jealous,and you should ask yourself why she feels the need to do that??
2007-06-17 21:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by j.r. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look unless you are that insecure and don't feel stable enough in your relationship to trust her , i doubt you have anything to worry about. she comes home to you , right. she's telling you what she's doing.it's not behind your back.
2007-06-17 21:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she's a tramp, I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-06-17 21:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋