2007-06-17 14:08:59 · 21 answers · asked by Emmie26 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he loved you he wouldn't be married to his wife. They never...NEVER....leave their wives. You have wasted 6 years of your life. I feel sorry for you. Move on....for your own happiness and health.
There is a single man out there wondering where his Miss Right is, and your fiddly farting around postponing the happiness that should be your life.
2007-06-17 14:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't done it after 6 years, he isn't going to and most likely has no intention of doing so.
The odds that he will marry you even if you expose his affair and his wife throws him out are very small. He will be angry at you for messing up his marriage and most likely will move on.
He doesn't love you enough to make you first in his life. You deserve a man who will put you first and not ask you to live in the shadows of his marriage, in second to his family.
Force the issue, tell his wife if you want and see what happens. Either you will lose him when he then stops all contact with you to save his marriage, or he will end up in divorce with his wife, and even then, may not. It's going to get really ugly.
Six years is a long time to have your life on hold.
This man is not being fair to you or his wife. Both of you believe that he loves them. In the meantime, he is the cakeman. He gets the attention of two women while you both face heartache.
If he loved you, you wouldn't have to convince him.
2007-06-17 14:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by joyh 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Simple as that.
If you have been the "other woman" for 6 years and he's STILL both married to someone else AND telling you he loves you, you need therapy or a brain transplant...!
He has had the best of both worlds for 6 years...Why on earth would he leave his wife for you at this point? You have clearly shown him you love him and you are willing to be his "fun on the side" without complaining.....You have accepted the role of "mistress" and he will not want you to leave him or to change things, so he will continue to sweet talk you and tell you he loves you- when he doesn't. He is using you....
I agree with the other answers.....You have WASTED six years of your life, and there is NO WAY you will get that time back- ever! So you'd better smarten up and GET OUT NOW...Before you are too old to find another person who can actually share a life with you....
2007-06-17 14:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here we go again...yea, yea, yea, all the BS, an illicit love affair where you fall in the trap of the married man syndrome. He loves you and finds you exciting because he goes home to his wife and family. He has the best of both worlds, but do you? You have lost sight of the fact that you are with a man who is married, and probably has children. You accepted his BS about his wife not understanding him, her not being loving enough, and you fell hook, line and sinker. You are the loser in this relationship. He goes home to his wife. Who do you go home to? Four walls and lonliness? Think girl...you are on the losing end of this love affair if you can call it that. Stop romanticizing about an affair that is totally one sided. Come back into the real world. If you are looking for yahoo answers people to give you hints and advice on how to get your lover to leave his wife, boy are you in for a shock. Most yahoo people are moral and upstanding and they would not agree with you. So, my advice is to end this affair ASAP, give the guy his walking papers and tell him it is over and out. But you must really mean it...This affair can continue for years if you let it, and the life you will have will be filled with hurt, lonliness and disappointment. It happened to my best friend and before she turned around, the affair went into its 17th year. Then he had an affair with another woman and married this other woman. If you want to remain alone, childless and second choice, then continue this affair, but if you want what every woman deserves, a good man that is devoted to her and her alone, then break it off now and move on. Once you are over the shock of the breakup, you will ask yourself what took you so long. Yes, he will call, follow you, plead and cajole but always keep uppermost in your mind and heart that he belongs to someone else and he should not leave. Do you want to be responsible for immorality and something that is against God? I don't think so...If you are smart, you will move on and never look back.
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2007-06-17 17:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been having an affair for 6 years, why would you think he's going to leave his wife? Ever? Obviously, this is working out just fine for him..he's got the wife and he's got you. His motivation to change the situation is..what?
Even if he did leave his wife for you..why would you want him? If he'd cheat on his wife, the person he once promised to love above all others, why would he keep that same promise to you? Oh wait..let me guess..he loves you. He never really loved her.
You need to end the affair, and find someone who is available.
2007-06-17 16:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? This man will NEVER leave his wife for you. Why should he, he has a home and wife and he has a woman ready to open her legs for him any time he wants her to and he owes her nothing.
Do you really think he would marry a woman who would carry on with a married man? Do you think he woul leave his wife to be with a woman he would always wonder about? He knows you are with him, a married man, so whats to keep you from cheating on him down the line sometime? You have proven you have no respect for marriage and you are easy and cheap because he does not have to support you and still you are always there.
I feel sorry for you, you are a sick sad person
2007-06-17 16:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by 1sflady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to leave his wife. He's not going to marry you. You're not going to live happily ever after. He doesn't love you and is just using you for sex. Get over it, move on and find a man of your own. Stop trying to steal someone elses.
2007-06-17 15:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i am not going to judge you-we all make mistakes and this hopefully will be your last
you may not know this but you dont want a man who would leave his wife-odds are good he would do the same to you
take a look at yourself in the mirror and learn to love the beauty you see reflected and then spread that love internally.
move on to your destiny-real happiness in a relationship that doesnt involve you ducking and dodging, avoiding certain events.
my problem is with this man-he is destroying the lives of two women for the price of one but can only continue this with your help-stop enabling him.
i have watchedall kinds of women put up with crap from knuckleheaded men who give good men a bad name-move on before he drops you for another after your leave your wife discussion begins to annoy him & trust that it will!
on another note never threaten anyone because you can never know thewir reaction and i dont want to hear about you on th evening news.
i hope this helps
2007-06-17 17:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but if he hasn't left her after 6 years he isn't going to. Plus anything you do to try and force him to leave her will most likely backfire on you.
2007-06-17 14:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. He's having his cake and eating it too. Why should he? He gains nothing.
And why do you want a cheating man anyway? Why do you put up with getting so little. Why did you stay with someone who is unavailable. These are questions you should be asking yourself.
2007-06-17 14:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by mouser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋