Disrespecting Pregnant Women?

Question

Why do people think it's funny to call pregnant women fat? I've had a couple people say I'm "fat" and then laugh as if it was some wonderful act of comedy. In reality, I was thin before I became pregnant, and now I'm at 37 weeks and have a HUGE belly, but the rest of me isn't really any different from how it's always been. Is it that people really can't separate "fat" from "normal, but carrying around a fully developed baby", or does it make people feel better to say hateful things like that? If anyone ever said something like that to a non-pregnant woman, they wouldn't have time to laugh before they were clocked in the head with a brick, so why is it OK if the woman has a baby belly? Sorry this is so long, I'm just so upset about it right now. And please don't send me evil answers...please remain mature in your responses. Thank you.

Answer 1

Your not fat, your beautiful ! it takes a lot of getting used too, you were once thin and now you have this beautiful baby growing inside of you. Some people cant help themselves, and its usually people you know who say the hurtful things, it takes them a while to get used to it. I got called fat aswell, and i would just say "not fat, pregnant". It hurts so much, but in all honesty, it takes an absolute strong willed woman to have a baby, and you are one of them. Being pregnant is hard in itself, not only that but your hormones go crazy, so everything people say that isnt supportive makes you just want to break down. These people will be jealous when you have this beautiful baby. People will stop you in the shops and on the street...and they will be thinking "wow, what a beautiful baby". Being pregnant is a wonderful thing, do not listen to these narrow minded people, they are just jealous. Keep your head up high..and try not to listen to them, as hard as it may be. Congratulations by the way...and i hope your baby is healthy and happy.

Answer 2

Congratulations on being pregnant! I loved every minute of my pregnancies. It is unfortunate that you have to deal with ignorant people, but on the bright side, you will be back to "normal" soon and then you will have a beautiful baby (well worth a little ignorance), I had a 10lb baby myself and yes my stomach was huge during the last few months. You could respond to them by saying they aren't exactly supermodel material themselves ;) They don't deserve to have the pleasure of your company if they can not respect you. I don't think it's funny at all and they should be more afraid of getting something thrown at them by a pregnant woman than any other woman. Well I hope it gets better for you, and remember you will have your bundle of joy soon and all they have is rude comments to keep them company.

Answer 3

I feel where your comming from. Im Due tuesday and for the past 2 months people always say looks like im having twins. So i get really upset and go to look at other pregnant womens belly pictures at the same trimester and they look just as big as me if not bigger.
Just today i went to the mall with my bf, and a little girl said to her brother, (look how fat that lady is) I went right up to her mother and said you need to educate your little girl on what a pregnant women looks like

Answer 4

I always have people tellinig me I'm huge when i;m normal size for 31 weeks the only thing that got big on me is my boobs and belly, i was also very in shape before pregnancy. The funny thing is it is only women who say mean things, i have been hit on more than ever by men .. they are just catty who cares you are growing a life dont even listen just laugh it off and say i cant wait to see you pregnant, cause when it happens to them and you return to your fabulous self you can be there laughing and pointing!!

Answer 5

I think it really depends on who says it to you. My sister in law said it too me. Every time I saw her she would say whats up fattie. When I asked her about why she was calling me that she said its was because I was cute and I had a fat belly. She didn't mean harm in it. Some people do mean harm in calling you fat, either because they are trying to make you feel bad about your self or they are jealous because you look so beautiful pregnant. I know its hard but just brush it off. People will hate regardless of how you look. Just remember you look good and don't let what they say get you down

Answer 6

I don't know how "mature" this is, but I have a comeback prepared (I'm 25 weeks myself). Just say "There's a baby in here, what's your excuse?" Luckily my family and friends are familiar with my sarcastic sense of humor. I would use that only on people I know though, I don't have one yet for complete strangers.

Ignore the rude comments and be proud of your bulging belly. You are nourishing a life inside of you, and that is something to be immensely proud of. If you are concerned about strangers, maybe say something like "Well he/she can be as big as they like, I'm just happy he/she is healthy." And say it with a smile. Some people, note I said some, are just ignorant (in the sense that they don't know better) and not trying to be deliberately insensitive.

And please don't take this the wrong way, but people don't know how our hormones or emotions work, and how sensitive we can be during pregnancy.

Answer 7

Umm, no offense dear, but you might want to re-evaluate the company you keep. I have been pregnant 3 times and not once did anyone of my family, friends or casual acquaintances call me fat. Hell, I am frankly obese right now (and not pregnant) and I still have never had anyone call me fat. I even say to my husband all the time "I'm fat" and he always says "no, you're just pleasantly plump."

But maybe not, the people who call you fat are probably just joking, and you might want to let them know you don't appreciate those kinds of comments.

Answer 8

i think of you and something persons might desire to easily forget approximately approximately him. i think of that having an abortion might desire to be as much as the persons in contact. there is not any longer something incorrect with being pregnant. I honestly have been pregnant two times. Non pregnant females may be in simple terms as disrespected or respected as pregnant females. there is not any longer something relaxing approximately identifying no longer have a toddler and to have it removed from you.

Answer 9

Im 37 weeks my self due 7/9/07 and i was 100lbs before i got pregnant Im 149 but im all baby and i get the same thing like i didnt see my self in the mirror this morning ok im pregnant!!!!! cant you see yes im miserable yes i know my fingers and toes look like sausages. and can you just tell me where the restroom is when i ask with out the bulll conversation about how huge i am.

Answer 10

Some people use an event like pregnancy as an excuse to "forget" their good manners, assuming they had any to begin with, that is. It could be out of jealousy (from a woman who may be upset about her own inability to have children), ignorance, cruelty (some people are just ugly and don't know how to treat others with respect and kindness), etc.

I know it hurts when they say this stuff, but please don't let them steal your joy or create undue stress for you and your baby. You can't stop them rom being mean, but you can control how you respond to them. Something simple like, "My baby and I are very happy and healthy. Thank you for asking." may be enough to leave them scratching their heads while you walk away with a smile.