I wanted to have friend with benefit with this girl - she 18 I’m 26, I was wrong to pressure her for 11 months when she didn‘t agree and kept saying no can‘t have sex with a friend, … but anyway she finally agree to sex with me…but after we had sex. I found myself thinking about her all the time. I don’t even care about sex anymore with her. I find that i keep calling her every minute of the day...i am no longer thinking about sex with her but only think of kissing her and spending time with her- I want to know how her day is and I just want her to be happy, i just feel very strange, if i don't hear her for one minute i don't feel good for the day...even while at work i find myself calling her every minute of the day wanting to spend all day on the phone with her - and whenever I hear her voice I just get so weak- my whole tone changes and I talk to her gentle(a tone which I‘d never let my boys hear).... why I’m i not able to control myself from calling her so much...why do i have to keep thinking about her all the time? I had sex with her and thought that i could just remain friends with her, but what is happening to me...?I’m confused.. even few days back she was upset with me for some reason and I even found myself talking to her dad telling him that i miss her and is worried about her and asking if she is alright…
What has come over me?
2007-06-17 12:06:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the deal is that i'm using my friend's account
2007-06-17 12:26:55 · update #1
that's called LOVE buddy good luck.
2007-06-17 12:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by collectivetheresa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you got a piece of sunshine and have fell madly in love. Have you considered that she might not feel the same. Maybe she just want to remain friends. My advice to you is to have a long talk with her and get it all out in the open. Only then will you know how she feels and ask her to be honest all bull crap to the side. I feel sorry for you and hope things go well between you two. That is one hell of a story. But, just because your in love don't stalk her or call her all the time give her some breathing room please. Your not sick and your not going to die, you just fell in love. You bit off more than you can chew when you went the extra mile. Sign on again on your friends account and let us know the outcome, Good luck to you buddy.
2007-06-17 12:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though she is younger than you it sounds like she is more mature.
Why were you so compelled to try FwB with this girl? Why not find a girlfriend and develop a healthy sexual relationship?
I don't know you and this is my opinion, but your mind may have been saying FwB but your heart was in it with both feet before she said yes. She probably knew this and that is why she said no to the sex to begin with. You skipped friends with benefits, and in all likely hood you've killed the friendship and gone in to obsessive land.
To begin to repair this give her some room man, it sounds like you're suffocating her. Then when you've gotten your act together talk to her. Explain that your heart became involved and leave the decision in her hands. She may want to be friends w/o the benefits or maybe she has deeper feelings for you too. OR she may tell you to get lost. What ever choice she makes - be a man, accept it, and move on.
2007-06-17 12:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by kudzu_sr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-27 23:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hopelessly in love.
Enjoy the feeling, it can be a bit scary sometimes, but it can be incredibly wonderful too.
But making it last is another thing. Make sure you're always nice and understanding and supportive, listen to her when she has a concern, try to avoid fighting when you have a disagreement, discuss it calmly. Things like that will keep the love alive for the rest of your life.
Enjoy the feelings. They're just wonderful.
2007-06-17 12:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Shutterbug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called LOVE and is one of the reasons why platonic friendships should stay platonic! Having sex with a friend is the easiest way to break a friendship. For your sake, I hope she feels the same way as you do, or you are in for a lot of pain. Good luck, perhaps for the first time in your life you are really in love.
2007-06-17 23:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your "Falling in Love" don't be afraid of it, but be carefull about rushing into things too fast as well. Take your time, and most importantly enjoy your time together. Talk to her and see how she feels about you.
It's quite normal to feel all of the things you have expressed and it's not to abnormal that your falling in love with someone you hadn't expected too. You may have to practice some mind control however with "wanting to talk to her all of the time" people eventually need some space or they may start to feel a bit suffocated. I'm sure you will admit it would be easier to focus on work while at work if you wern't focusing on your newly developed "love of your life"as well.
I guess in short and in my opinion whats happening is completely normal, and probably feels a little bit scary but enjoy it. There are many people I am sure who would love to have this problem. Enjoy it, and hopefully it lasts!
2007-06-17 12:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by miketoler820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, thats kinda cute. Usually people fall in love than have sex. You, on the other hand, have sex then fall in love =) lolz. Tell her how you feel! Maybe she feels the same way about you. Women do tend to have a softer spot for men they have had sex with. Its that good old oxytoxin =) Good luck!
2007-06-17 12:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lonely Love 06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you plan bit you on the ***. Nothing is wrong with you, you are just human. It is natural for friends who have sex to start to feel differently about their relationship. If you think she feels the same way, you could talk to her. however as long as no one gets hurt, and you dont feel like she wants more, enjoy what you have.
2007-06-17 12:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Matthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA...you're friends with benefits situation back fired on ya! LOL...sounds like you're in love. Guess you may have to have a conversation with the girl and see where she stands. Hopefully you didn't ruin the friendship. Next time you'll think twice before trying to set up a friends with benefits situation...
2007-06-17 12:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lula,
In another post, you where a girl. So, what are you?
Before it was "I'm in love with this guy but right now".
Now, you seem to be representing yourself as a guy.
What's the deal?
2007-06-17 12:22:36 · answer #11 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋