I was OK for the first couple of weeks, but now I just feel so down. And I think about him all the time even though I dont want him back, to many lies. I know I am betterr of without him so why does it hurt so damn much?
2007-06-17 11:57:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are grieving for a relationship that you had. Grief doesn't cure itself overnight.
You don't say how long you were married but the longer the marriage, the longer the grief period.
The fact that he left you for another man shouldn't make you feel worse. He just did what he had to do and if he's gay, there's no way you can take that personally. Good luck and be kind to yourself.
2007-06-17 12:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to beat yourself up over this , and even more so do not think it was your fault . There is nothing you could have possibly done if it is true that he left for another man . You know surely that passion and attraction always win out. If anybody stands in the way, folks do crazy things to get their way .
I hope you are still young and were not married all that long . Imagine if it happens later in life when the other partner is left behind . Be grateful you are rid of him . Go out and buy a new hat and make new friends . In time the hurt subsides and you recognize it was the best thing that ever happened to you .
Good Luck and be well .
2007-06-17 19:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone could answer that one for me, it has been 2 years (no divorce in process) but there are days that it seems like yesterday, mine wasn't happy (30 years) was having an affair with the company tramp, I suspected nothing and no one else did either. Wonder if he is happy now, she has already kicked him out and he has given up everything he had for her, good wife( who had shared his life and trusted him completely for 30 years), good son, good reputation in the community, his family etc. He would never admit it though he is a very stubborn person, who will never say the words I'm sorry, so he will never let any of us know his true feelings. No chance of reconciliation anyway, no more trust. But that doesn't stop me from wishing that I could have my life back the way it used to be, just a dream though. Good Luck to Both of Us
2007-06-17 19:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question that I find myself asking everyday and it's been almost 3 months since my ex and I separated. Aside from all the lying that happended during the relationship we still somehow overcame that and fell in love with that person. Sad to say but they may have not loved us as we loved them. As far as him leaving you for another man I am sorry to hear that happened. He should of been honest with you upfront about his sexuality as I think most individuals know who they are. Hope you cheer up
2007-06-17 19:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jay G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you loved him. You take as much time as you need to grieve the loss of love. It will work out in the end.
2007-06-17 19:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because it was a betrayal. It will take time to heal.
2007-06-17 19:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this, you need time are you getting a divorce??
2007-06-17 19:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it because the other man is better looking than you?
2007-06-17 19:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋