Should I consider this person as a friend anymore?

Question

At the beginning of this year, i made a friend (Ashley) at my school, in which we became the best of friends. Little did I know that we were very similar to each other, and we wondered why we didn't become friends last year. So, softball season started, and I was thinking of joining it as to learn it while I was still a freshman at the school. I didn't want to do it alone, so i convinced Ashley to join it with me, and she said yes. I was excited when season started, but during the season, i noticed, Ashley started avoiding me gradually. For example, when i asked if she wanted to pitch with me, she replied with an angry "no". I figured it was because of the "cool" kids who were in our team. She seemed to want to ignore me whenever I called her name, but when we were distant from the other players, she started being herself again. When season ended, she started not hanging out with me anymore during lunch, or just talking to in general. It seems to me that she's embarassed 2 be my friend

Ashley had always been at my lunch table since it was the only time of our school hours that we were able to talk to each other (we aren't in any classes together). Now, she doesn't sit there (ever since the end of season), and I hardly have any clue about her whereabouts. When I do find her in the halls though, I ask her where she goes during lunch, and replies would be "i seriously forgot," or "i was in ____ class finishing something". So recently, I had to take a test for my history class because I was sick on the day of the test. I went to the history room during lunch, and there she was - with another group of kids, but they weren't exactly the "cool" kids (in general or from our team). As she's munching on her lunch, i wait for her to at least smile or make a friendly "hi" out to me, which she always did in the hallways. this time, she completely ignored me, but she said "hi" to a team-mate of ours who entered the room. its kinda depressing 2 think that your friend doesnt "see" u

Answer 1

You can still be friends if you talk it out with her.
Don't if you won't.

Answer 2

No she's not embarrassed she is putting on a show for the cool kids. She's pretending she doesn't like you because all the cool kids hang out together & she now wants to be a part of their group w/ or without you. So do I think you should consider her a friend anymore.... No ! If she was a true friend she would never have done that to you in the first place. Move on and find someone who likes you for you reagardless of being cool or not just for being you! Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

thats difficult. ive been in a lot of situations where you really wonder if you should be friends wityh some1 anymore. but i have some really great friends and just dont want to give them up, even if they have done some pretty harsh things to me. but what your friend ashley was doing, that may or may not be forgiveable. if you really like ashley and you guys have a great connection, then maybe just bring it up in a conversation or hint that you are mad about that. if she doesnty get the hint or nothing changes you definitely shoodnt be her friend. now i dont know if she is your only friend or something but even if she was ur only friend its best to be able to show that you dont need anyone. ive gone through times where im the most popualr girl and where everyones mad at me but i always show that i can go on jsut as well without anyone by my side.

Answer 4

Forget her Gurl!!!! You're way too good to be treated like this. I wouldn't even spend anymore time worrying about her. She doesn't deserve to have a friend like you. She ditches you and care about her now you're a good friend. She's not worth another minute of your time. In my opinion you sound like one of the cool kids which are the kids who don't go around thinking they are better than everyone else with a chip on their shoulder making everyone else thinking they have to be a certain way to be their friend. Gurl go find a new friend who will treat you with the respect you deserve and totally ignore her I wouldn't even look her way and when she doesn't have any friends and comes crawling back your way send her packing. You sound like you have a lot to offer a friend and there are a lot of people out there who would love to be your friend and treat you like a friend instead of a doormat. Good Luck.......

Answer 5

There's a lot of people out there who will hang out with you and act as if you guys were friends, but when someone "cooler" would come they'll just abandon you to go to the "cooler" person that they think is better. Then they'll ignore you as best as they can. I think that this just means that they have low self-esteem. If I were you, I'd be nice to her but I wouldn't try to get her to hang out with me if she obviously doesn't want to be seen with me. Oh, and don't think that something's wrong you with you because she's embarrassed to be seen with you or anything, it's her self-esteem that has a problem, not yours. Just try to find people that are true friends and that love you for who you truly are.

Answer 6

No, she is not your friend, she was using you, you guys were too similar and these friendships do not last, she made new friends on the team, and then she probably became popular, and liked it! IF she wants to be your friend she'll come to you, but otherwise i would go and find new friends that actually treat you like friends not like some freak with a disease

Answer 7

I think you should talk to her. Just mention the fact the she seems to ignore you when she is around her "other friends". She what she has to say and then take it from there. Just have little convos like that and see what the deal is. But if she does act different when she is around thoes girls thats not fair and thats just not right, if she continues to do that get new friends.

Answer 8

I think no I used to try to be so cool but every time i was around them they talked to me but then when they became cool they would ignore me so I would always get mad at them.
they would always talk about me behide my back & I just ignore them cuz they r not worth it.
If they are not talking to you & ignoring you you should not hang out with you probly have alout nicer friends.
I dont belive in coolness cuz no one can be better then you we are all =.
If I did belive in coolness I think it means:
if everyone likes you & If you like everyone
& if everyone alows you as a friend & if you are nice.

Answer 9

I wouldn't. There are far too many people in this world to worry about one "friend". People come in and out of your life; sometimes it's for the better and sometimes not so much. You're young so go out and have a great time!!

Answer 10

It seems to me that she doesn't want to be around you. I think you should just leave it alone cause she doesn't sound like a person i would call a friend if she ignores me when she is with a certin crowd.

Answer 11

i think you should confront this person about their behavior. if she still acts snotty and ignores you after you confront her about it, then just forget about her! make some more friends, she's phony and her phoniness will once day catch up to her. what goes around comes around. for now, i'd say NOT to consider this person as a friend. talk it out though, maybe she just doesn't realize shes being a ***** haha. good luck.