I've been with my husband for 7 yrs and married for 3 yrs. I recently met another man that I clicked with immediately. I love both of them and don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt either one of them. I'm afraid my husband will be lost and not move on cuz we've been together since we were 14. The other man said he would wait as long as I needed him to and If i stayed with my husband he'd still be a great friend but I'm afraid that will hurt him too and be really hard. I could really use some great advise.
2007-06-17 11:44:03 · 18 answers · asked by w061204 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband went through this about a year ago. He cheated and lied to me about it for 6 months. I've told him everything and am not hiding anything from him.
2007-06-17 12:25:13 · update #1
Keep the husband...lose the friend...you took vows and you need to keep them. You need to respect your husband and your marriage enough to tell the other man to walk away.
2007-06-17 11:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly why young marriages fail! The people that enter them don't include God. Obviously you haven't because if you had then you would be on your knees praying right now asking God to remove this feeling and this other man out of your life. You made a vow to your husband and the only grounds for divorce should be adultery. But don't worry, you might just get that divorce, if you've already cheated. Man..do the next guy a favor and don't marry him.
Honestly, I feel bad for you. You are a weak woman. That saddens me. I think you need to pray that God molds you. You weren't ready for marriage and it's showing...
2007-06-17 18:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u have made up mind already as u say he won't know what do to ....If u love ur husband as u say then other man should be gone tomorrow and u shouldn't be thinking that way .... so apparently u are already cheating in ur mind and u have been with husband long time has he done something wrong have u talked it out with him .... Married people in love do not fall for other people
2007-06-17 18:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by shorthaulman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this truly is a real situation, you already know the right thing to do. Cut off ALL ties to your "friend" and focus on making your marriage better. All marriages go through stages like this, bottom line is that if you INDULGE the idea of being with your "friend" the idea will never go away. It's always flattering after so many years of marriage to have someone on the outside that finds you attractive, but you belong to your husband and visaversa. That's something to be proud of! Focus all of your sexual tension onto your husband, "date" him again and things will pass.
2007-06-17 18:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by ang&bri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your husband. You know that yur husband is telling the truth about loveing you. Your friend might just be their telling you things to get down your pants. Guys are good for that. If he was a good frind that cared about you then he would of never told you anything to make you think twice about your marriage. Stay with the husband and get rid of the so call friend.
2007-06-17 18:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by chriswh90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The morally correct thing to do it to stay true to your husband. I know you wouldn't want him to leave you for some new "friend". I know that new feeling that come with someone new are strong...but stop and think. Don't ruin a 7 year relationship and a marriage over something that "could" be. You could leave your husband for this new guy and he could dump you the next day....think about that.
2007-06-17 18:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said I love both , then you said if you leave your husband he will be hurt .... so which of them is keeping you with your husband ? you need to know
Second
Lots of women , or most of them think that if they tell their husband they want to leave they will die , no , he will keep on living and find someone who can make him really happy cause I bet , at this stage , you're not .
For the other man , is he serious or not ...this is something else...try to find out , there are ways
Good Luck
Magdi
2007-06-17 18:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by keladakelada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.Quit seeing the other guy and END IT.You made VOWS to your husband not this guy who is wanting to destroy your marriage dingy.If you REALLY loved your husband you wouldn't even have this issue.You do NOT love your husband or else you wouldn't be seeing this guy on the side.Love requires commitment and fidelity.
You don't love this other guy either or else you would be willing to dump hubby.Yes you have "feelings" for both of them but love means you are willing to hurt someone for the person you want.You aren't willing to hurt either .Honor your vows, especially if their are children involved.
2007-06-17 18:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Stick with your husband and worry about making your marriage better. If things are not going well in your marriage seek help with a counselor.
2007-06-17 19:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by bhopefull 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if the role was reversed.this friend is NO FRIEND!!! he wants sex. if you love him like you say you did you have probally slepted with him .women are such SUCKERS!!!! women give sex for love, men give love for sex.women get sex and love mixed up easy.you are obligated to your husband ;remember to death do us part forsaking ALL OTHERS.unless your a liar and you trick him when you said your vows to him.if your husband has cheated on you then dump him move on. wait 1-2 years then start dating again watch the rebound trap.
2007-06-17 19:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by ronbo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋