My husband has recently (since last month) started talking to his ex-fiance. It bugs me because when we got together he never told me about her and planed on still marrying her tell I found out about her and left him. He then left her and called me(at the time he was at boot camp). He told her he wanted out and she tried everything to stay with him from the pregnate root and everything. He still choose to be with me. I have knowen him since I was in high school. He met his ex online on something called Vampierave. He only saw her once but they talked all the time online before I came in the picture. Well last month he wrote her saying "She is the only person who can understand him". How can he do this after 6 months of marriage. We have fights like everyone but this tops it off. I don't know what I should think. This women obvisouly means something to him right???
2007-06-17 11:42:00 · 9 answers · asked by Tinka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I saw this, because in a hurry of showing his ex off to a friend he "forgot" to log off the webpage and his account. I don't talk to her. I asked him about it and he swears up and down he just needed to talk but why can't he talk to me!?
2007-06-17 11:58:43 · update #1
This does not sound good. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it sounds like you're gonna have to throw down an ultimatum. If he can't or won't give you a clear understanding of what their "friendship" is to your satisfaction ...then he needs to stop communicating with her. That is opening Pandora's box and he doesn't wanna go there. He may have not have cheated yet, but that kind of emotional stuff most times leads to cheating.
2007-06-17 11:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he really does have strong feelings for his ex. A lot of times people always have feelings for the ex, I would let it go girl. I know that this is going to be hard but I would try to if I were you.
2007-06-17 11:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do u know he wrote that? did he text her or was it a letter? did she tell you he did or you heard from someone else? is it reliable?
i can see why it would bother you. thats a large claim. 'the only one who understands him?' and youve been married 6 months? hmmm...well you definitely need to confront him, assuming your source or whatever is reliable. you need to get to the bottom of it now better than later. and if there sending these type of messages back and forth, that needs to stop too. you shouldnt have to second-guess your spouse
2007-06-17 11:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to throw out the computer break contact with this girl and see a marriage counselor because it sounds like NEITHER of you are willing to own up to your own crap.
2007-06-17 11:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices #1 Put up with the B.S. or #2 The opposite of #1*. Your choice, you decide*......
2007-06-17 14:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you still went with him knowing all these. So you have to deal with it. He is trying to have a side dish going.
2007-06-17 11:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! He sounds like he's playing you both.
2007-06-17 11:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that he's a cheating pig
2007-06-17 11:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by P B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right
2007-06-17 11:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋