i bought her a car. she got in a car accident it was totally. i co signed. she moved out and left me the bill. she didn't cover the insurance, i now have not heard from her in months. but she says i wronged her. go figure,
2007-06-17 11:37:34 · 11 answers · asked by mary p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All of your questions are centred on this problem. You need to seek help to understand yourself and your daughter. Her sexuality, if she is happy with, it should not be bothering you - yet i feel this is a big issue with you. Teenagers do lots of things and then blame their parents- its par for the course. She is obviously capable of making her own decisions and looking after herself- maybe this is what you are finding hard? It is hard when they grow up and leave us - we feel hurt and rejected. And we sometimes find it difficult to accept that they are now making decisions for themselves be it right or wrong- we have to let them though because its the only way they learn. Now what you need to do is to start rebuilding your life and have some fun- when she comes to you for help think about what you are doing- let her help herself more- she is capable.
2007-06-17 11:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by the Phoenix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite sure what your daughter being a lesbian has to do with the car wreck. Is she working? My husband was asked by his son(from another marriage) to co-sign for a truck. My husband told him if the son could get his savings built up in the amount of two truck notes and two month's worth of insurance, he would consider co-signing. I guess what I am trying to tell you is, you needed some kind of colateral from your daughter before you co-signed for her.
2007-06-17 11:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter's sexual preferences are entirely her responsibility. The car accident was totally her responsibility too. I think your daughter is looking to blame someone for her mistakes and you are the closest. Make her own up to her own responsibilities and stop allowing her to use you as her personal scapegoat when things go wrong in her life. If she is old enough to live independently, she is old enough to be responsible.
2007-06-17 11:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's confussed and she hasn't realized how much you've done for her.
it could also be a cry for help. maybe you weren't "there" for here enough when she was younger.
she might still need her mother. if she's out yet, she could still have feelings of rejection for being a lesbian. be patient with her. she will eventually come around.
2007-06-17 11:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lor*n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, some kids feel entitled. Your daughter sounds like one of them.
Quit doing so much for her. She doesn't appreciate it anyway.
And what does having a lesbian have to do with anything? Just curious.
2007-06-17 11:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what universe did you grow up in? it's always the mom's fault. ALWAYS!! this is the heartache with children. if they did something great, they did it all on their own. if they did something bad, it's mom's fault. i have 3 boys so far. i'm not even sure i'm prepared for this.
2007-06-17 11:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does her sexual preference have to do with the accident and insurance?
2007-06-17 11:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you simply using this forum to rant or was there a question in there somewhere?
2007-06-17 11:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does that have to do with her being a lesbian?
2007-06-17 11:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has mental problems hon, the fact she is lesbian proves it.
2007-06-17 11:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋