My daughter is having siezures...Please Help?

Question

My ex has accused me of all kinds of abuse toward my daughter, and I live out of state. (Most of her arguments are not admissable in court. We were together until my daughter was 6 months old. In those six months, she never allowed me to be alone with my child...I think I spent maybe 2 hrs alone with her in 6 months.
She has also made it clear that she does not want me to have unsupervised visitation under any circumstances.
My daughter started having siezures in November of last year. The doctor cannot find a clear cause of the siezures, except to say that they were breath-holding episodes.She has had siezures within a week or so of any important court date, scheduled visitation or dr. appt. The last one occurred the night before the preliminary court hearing. My ex says I am incapable of taking care of my daughter because of the siezures. Should I be concerned that she is either causing or taking advantage of the siezures to interfere with visits? Please Help!

Answer 1

It sounds to me like your ex is the abusive one. I would really be seriously asking to have her assessed as being an unfit mother. I cant remember the name of it, but there is a disorder where some mother's will deliberately make their children sick. It is obvious your child is under an incredible amount of stress to be having these kind of seizures. I would be very concerned if I were you because it sounds like your ex may be the reason your daughter is having seizures. Your ex may be deliberately bringing them on. Your ex seems very unstable. I dont know if I could just sit back and allow this to continue any longer.......I believe the mother is deliberately making your daughter sick.

Answer 2

Stress can cause this, but you need to get another opinion from a doctor. Have your ex take and force the doctors to do every test the can. Including checking for meningitis. Stress can cause this, but it is rare. I know this is hard for you, but put your wants to be with her on the back burner and have the court force dad to take her to another doctor. This will help you also. The courts will see you are putting your wants aside for the health of your child. Also, ask dad if you can call her. Let him know you have no problems with him being on the line or even recording the conversation. You just want the chance to tell her mom loves her. He is scared also. You maybe his "safe" outlet for his fear and anger at not being able to "fix" what is making his daughter so sick. Plus, there are meds that can fix siezures and he should have her on them. You may need to have your attorney force a gaurdium atlitum get invovled. This is an attorny that is just for the child and has a big hand in advising the judge of the childs well being. Including forcing dad to take the child not only to a doctor, but a specialist. The childs attorney also has the ability to tell the judge that there is reason or no reason for you to only have unsupervised visits. Not only that, if dad is using your daughters illness as away to not allow you to see her, he can be held in contempt of court, fined for custodial interference and face interventions or even jail time himself. Ask your attorney about it and have him force the issue. Your daughter deserves that. God Bless You and your Family and Good Luck.

Answer 3

Okay, something is not right here. How old is your daughter, because if she is a year old or so, she doesn't know enough about court and divorce to voluntarily cause a seizure before a court date. I really think you and your ex's main concern should be getting to the root of your childs medical issues and stop using this to hurt eachother.

Speak with her doctors or specialist about what to do if she has one of these episodes and how you can help her in one or help prevent one. After educating yourself on what to do then you would be able to prove that you are capable of helping her through one.

Answer 4

I've had siezures when I was growing up...the most cause of mine were the flashing lights (some) among others. It still could happen to me. also not so bright lights in the dark. You should try finding out yourself, you should know your child well, once you find out you can make sure it does not happen if you can. I haven't had a siezure in years, but I thought I almost had one a couple of weeks ago, do to searching for my cell, in the dark movie theater using not so bright of a light, I started geting dizzy

Answer 5

I had a dream the place i grew to become into having an particularly own courting with a woman that doesn't exist. Proves no longer something shop that I even have an particularly lively mind's eye. The human strategies can convince the consumer of regardless of the consumer needs, fantastically in a state of unconsciousness. loosen up. it quite is purely a dream. no longer something greater.

Answer 6

WAKE UP. SHE IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR DAUGHTER'S HEALTH SO U WILL FEEL GUILTY. THE TRUTH IS THAT SHE MAY BE THE ONE WHO IS REALLY GUILTY SINCE YOUR DAUGHTER IS THE ONE WHO SPENDS MOST OF HER TIME WITH YOUR EX. THINK ABOUT IT. THE REALITY OF THIS SITUATION WITH YOUR DAUGHTER HAS MANY REASONS. ONE, SHE WAS BORN WITH SEIZURES DUE TO HOW YOUR EX TOOK CARE OF HER TOMMY WITHOUT ANY HITS OR BRUISES. TWO, YOUR DAUGHTER COULD OF INHERITED THESE SEIZURES WITHOUT REALIZING IT. CHECK FAMILY HISTORY ON BOTH SIDES OF THE YOUR DAUGHTER'S FAMILY. THIRD, MAYBE YOUR DAUGHTER WAS DROPPED BY ACCIDENT AND SHE HIT HER HEAD SO THAT HAS TRIGGERED HER SEIZURES. BE PATIENT AS U TRY TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS. DO NOT HESITATE TO ASK THE DOCTOR ANY QUESTIONS. SHE IS YOUR DAUGHTER TOO EVEN THOUGH U DO NOT LIVE WITH HER. U LOVE HER TOO SO THAT SHOULD BE ENOUGH TO WANT TO KNOW ABOUT HER HEALTH. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 7

u just make sure u take ur daughter to get checked out by the doctor. U do it not ur ex. u take her to a different doctor n get a second opinion. and do what u need to do. for ur daughter. and u keep focused on that. make sure u tell the court that u are on top of it n takin her to doctors. show him proof n show him u can take care of her

Answer 8

Uh...yes...it is very CONVENIENT that she is seizing before court. You need to talk to the attorney and see if there is a way to get a 3rd party to have her before court the next time and see if she seizes...She may be smothering your child.

Contact child services with your concerns...by law they are required to investigate and they may be able to learn things that you can't.

Answer 9

You certainly have a right to be concerned. You will have to find a good attorney to work this out for you.

Maybe you can try posting this question in the law section.

Answer 10

Get a doctor's report. And if you can, a child services investigation.

This is awful, but I suspect your wife has a lot to do with the seizures.