Here's the story, got married 5 years back, ever since I got married I really don't like to make friends, never want to have an open conversation with anybody or talk to somebody about me or them. I lost touch with everybody, including my frineds, well wishers. Now I'm absolutely lonely, all by myself; ofcourse with a husband who hardly meets my needs.
I feel insecured, and to summarize I'm not happy. When some body asks me how are; it freaks me off and I tend not to answer as I think people know that I'm not happy.
What do I do to get out of this situation; I'm not happy with the man I married to. is the problem me, or the man or something else? Please help.
2007-06-17 11:04:36 · 6 answers · asked by Just4YA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel your pain*. You have two choices #1 Stay put and be miserable or #2 The opposite of #1*... Only you can make yourself happy*.. Another person can only contribute to your happiness*.. They cannot make you happy no matter what they say or do*.. Only you can make yourself happy*. It is a gift you give to yourself*...
2007-06-17 15:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a psychologist, but it seems you have many deep seeded problems which must be addressed. You could be suffering from chronic clinical depression and that can be helped with medication. But you first must see a psychologist to help you work through why you have become a recluse, non responsive and anti social. Actually these are signs of depression. If you are unhappily married, then you should also see a marriage counselour with your husband. If you feel the marriage was a mistake, then you could seek a separation while you are seeking medical help. There is help for you..you just have to reach out for it. See a medical professional immediately , get on the right medication and try to save your marriage if you feel it is worth saving. Best of Luck.
2007-06-17 17:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably dont want this to be true but your heart knows better, your not happy in your marriage. You are upset with your decision. Possibly seeing a counsler or therapist to make sure that is what it is before doing anything drastic.
2007-06-17 11:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by dhk414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get some help first for yourself. It's not normal to distance oneself from everyone. Then you can approach your marriage from a clearer headed standpoint. Until you fix you, there aren't going to be any measurable changes in your life. You will just keep repeating your mistakes.
2007-06-17 11:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your man is not loving enough or you expect too much out of a marriage. Be realistic.
2007-06-18 01:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound clinically depressed. Talk to a therapist.
2007-06-17 11:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋