What's going to happen? Will she be like more mature then everyone cause where we currently live has the highest crime rate in canada? Will people like her or hate her? She's one of those big city girls with a lot of clothes and a cellphone and an IPOD who gets whatever she wants. And she hates horses and stuff like that. Would we be better off not moving? Oh and she's 13...
2007-06-17 11:03:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She's not snotty or anything and she's very smartt. Her average this year was 93! She's responsible too, most of her clothes she bought herself. But she doesn't play with dollls anymore or anything. She prefers hanging out, going to movies, and etc...
2007-06-17 11:15:16 · update #1
DrPhilamina, I have more than one daughter. One is responsible, ones a little tricky. And that question about a college was just one of those attention things.
2007-06-17 11:17:56 · update #2
All I can say is Good luck on that one.
2007-06-17 11:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Judy W 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No 13-yr-old girl plays wiyh dolls. I think you'll find the kids in the small town are more like your daughter than you think. Street smart and mature are two different things. The thing is, you are never going to know in advance whether or not it will be good for her. It all comes down to who the people are that she meets. Some kids are very open and welcoming to new people. Others are extremely cliqueish and will never really accept the new kid. You never know what kind of kids they are until you meet them. And it doesn't matter the size of the city, or the relative income level either. It all has to do with the culture they have created/been raised in. So basically, it's a crap shoot. You will either have done the best thing in the world for your daughter or the worst. And you won't know until you get there. But if you have sound reasons for moving, you just have to have faith that you're making the right decision.
2007-06-17 11:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay.... I will try to be as nice as I can about this one! If you need to move, then you ought to. Better to be in the country than a big city with a crime problem. Safety for a young girl should definately be your priority. Hello! The city teen will have to learn to adjust and YOU need to stop giving her "whatever she wants." A 13 year old does not need a trunk load of clothes. Spoiled children do not do well in the "real" world. You need to start thinking like the mother, not the friend. Who cares if she's likes it or not? She can move back to the city when she's 18!
2007-06-17 11:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by nbt95337 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good luck on this one. Why are you moving? Do you have a great job offer or something that you can't pass up? Who can say how she will be, but I think it will be culture shock!!! We had neighbors who moved to our small town from a big city and the wife couldn't stand it here. Wasn't here to long and they moved. It is quite a change. You can't let your daughter decide what happens with the family, but if the move isn't necessary, you might be better off staying where you are.
2007-06-17 11:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a lot like your daughter and I live in a fairly small yet high crim city with a population of just under 10,000. People in my school treat me badly sometimes because of what I have, even teachers have. Although it may not be the best decision to send her to a small-town school, life goes on and she WILL survive.
2007-06-18 08:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. I moved from a huge city to a SMALL town w/ a population of 1000. 4000 isn't really a small town, but w/e. I was fine. She should be fine if she tries to make friends. Just encourage her to be herself.
2007-06-17 14:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sara B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you could send her to stay with a friend in the summer. it sounds like she might have some trouble fitting in, but if she's a smart girl, it won't be much. you should do what's best for the family, not what's best for only her. make sure to discuss it with her and answer any questions she may have.
they will probably hate her at first, but i'm sure she'll find a way to fit in. about the maturity, i don't think so. crime rates don't count in little rural towns.
2007-06-17 11:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well.. As long as she doesn't brag about being spoiled. I'm sure people won't hate her. But if she think she is WAY better because she has more she will be disliked.. But moving to a smaller might be a good thing for her. Good luck.
2007-06-17 11:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ɕɦɘȴƨ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its your decision and with her only being 13 yrs old she will have plenty of time to adjust. She may not like the move in the beginning but she has to get over it, kids should never run the parents!
2007-06-17 11:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i moved from a large city in texas to a completely different world in a small town in missouri when i had just turned 14. i loved it because my differences interested people and made them want to get to know me! im sure your daughter will love it!
2007-06-17 11:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by lone_star_lass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving to a smaller town could be a blessing to her. nicer people and a 13 yr old adapts easily. she should have no problem making friends
2007-06-20 11:15:06 · answer #11 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋