everytime we get into an argument, he brings it up, that I had originally wanted to abort my son.......I've always been against abortion......but it's a different story when it happens to you....when you're young, and in college, no money...I couldn't barely take care of myself.....but i had changed my mind at the last minute......maybe 5 minutes before the procedure...I had wondered what if everything will be alright? so i decided to have him.....he's 18 months now, and i love him to death! he's beautiful! I don't know what I'd do without him, but my boyfriend had told me that he was gonna tell our son when he's older, that i wanted an abortion....I told him that if i truly didn't want him, i wouldn't have had him...what do i tell my son years from now, if his dad decides to tell him???
2007-06-17
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boyfriend is a nut, tell the kid yourself
2007-06-17 10:23:43
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answered by foxfire 5
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If your BF is that mean you shouldn't be dating him. He does not deserve your love. He is spiteful and I truly hope he is not your son's father so you can cut him out of your life.
You should not be judged for something you did not do (even if you did it, you shouldn't be judged). You only considered doing it. Your son will eventually know what it is like to be an adult and all the difficult decisions one has to face when it comes to relationships and children. No one is perfect and that's a lesson he will learn. Hopefully he won't be in a similar position in the future but if your dick of a BF tells him, eventually he'll realize that it doesn't matter because he has a loving mother and a great life.
Everyone should have the right of choice and you should not be judged, even by your own son, for considering your rights.
2007-06-17 17:29:17
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answered by Anonymous
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When you go out with these type of mean spirited guys, you can expect this type of treatment, just continue to show a great amount of love toward the little guy, and he will love you back, and this will counteract anything that his father could tell him. The child is too young to even comprehend the meaning of an abortion. Why is the father so set on trying to hurt the child?
2007-06-17 17:27:59
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answered by Anonymous
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your boyfriend is a jackazz...as for your son, it's okay if he knows...getting pregnant can be a very scary thing and the point is that although you thought about abortion, you didn't. THAT is what will matter to your son.
A HUGE number of people on this planet were unplanned and not really wanted initially (if ever) but here they are. You'll be able to get your son through it, if the sperm-donor bf decides to say something to him.
Why are you with someone who'd threaten you with that though? What kind of low life is he?
2007-06-17 17:23:20
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Dont wrry about it. What matters now is that u love ur son now. Every one makes mistakes. If u truly love him he will c and understand how hard of a time it was and ur bf sounds like and A hole. So just listen to ur heart.
2007-06-17 17:24:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell him you were young and stupid and society pushes girls who were in YOUR position to MURDER their babies while calling it a "choice" , then tell him you just could NOT go through with it he meant too much to you and you realized it was wrong and decided to do the RIGHT thing.Then kick your b/f out because all he wants to do is bring unecessary emotional pain to your son.Tell him when he can GROW up and act like and adult and marry you,then he can come home.
2007-06-17 17:24:49
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answered by Anonymous
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you have one choice tell him your self an take that power from him he is a jerk for even threating you an thin i would kick him to the curb tell him to get lost i am a man an a real man would never do that an thin tell your son that you loved him to much to do that say we all have to think about things an tell him that you realized he was more important to you kill to birds with one stone
2007-06-17 17:31:19
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answered by babyface69 1
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If that bastard tells his son that, he has some serious problems! But if he does your son will understand, because he loves you! good luck
2007-06-17 17:43:21
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answered by Carma 2
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i love you to death! I don't know what I'd do without you, if i truly didn't want you, i wouldn't have given you family, friends, and a life ahead of you...........
2007-06-17 17:32:23
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answered by Anonymous
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tell ur kid that you were THIS CLOSE to having the abortion and explain why. turn it into a learning experience to warn him about impregnating women. and then tell him how glad you are that you didn't.
2007-06-17 17:25:44
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