What should I do? Our son makes fun of him, he is only 7 years old. I told him to stop, the ex. is really happy, but I am concerned about people making fun that his step father is a midget.
2007-06-17 10:06:11 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At seven years old, he is still the child and you, your ex and his soon to be step dad, are the adult. He will continue if no one tells him that it is unacceptable for him to make fun of people. It is a bad bout of behavior patterns that he is falling into and the fact that he is already judging people at a young age, shows that you both need to take a little more time and give him direction. There is no difference between him making fun of a little person, or him making fun of a race. This needs to be nipped in the butt, and it needs to be done now.
I am not trying to be critical, truly I am not. I know how much that hurts though. My son is black/white mixed and his own uncle calls him awful names--and it hurts me---plus my son is autistic. It is not right, and you certainly don't want what he is doing now to escalate to hatred later in life with certain situations--my brother is a prime example of this!!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-06-17 10:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married To A Midget
2017-01-15 06:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by decinti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your son watch the show "Little People, Big World" on TLC (Monday nights, and reruns on Sat. nights). He will see a kind, loving family where the mom and dad are "little people" (the term midget is now considered derogatory), and 3 of the 4 kids are average-sized, while one of the kids is a little person. They are an average family living on an absolutely beautiful farm in Oregon, with some wonderful moments and some hilarious ones. He will see that they are a very loving family and are not to be mocked. Perhaps then your 7-year old will become less fearful and more accepting. You are right to tell him to stop making fun of him. That is very cruel and you also need to tell him that doing so hurts people's feelings. Why not sit and watch the show together? He will see kids on there as well as adults that are "little people" and will have a better understanding. BOTH of you could derive a better understanding.
2007-06-17 10:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by D 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't stop her from marrying the guy. You are too worried about what other people think too. The midget is a human being too and you need to explain that to your son and how rude it is to make fun of anyone.
2007-06-17 10:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
LMAO THATS FUNNY.... sorry, but its normal that a 7 year old makes funny of a midget.... Its not really ur problem... ur sons mom should talk to him... not you, because ur not the one who is going to marry a midget... and if ur ex wants ur help then just talk to ur son about how it is rude to do so... and the midget deserves respect just like everyone else.
2007-06-17 10:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by BellezaLatina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What others say is beyond your control. You can teach your son to treat people equally as he is taught at school about disability and other items related to discrimination.
The guy is the husband of your ex wife and of your kid;s mother. He is a step-father ONLY if he is raising your kid full time. Otherwise, he will probably stay out of the way if you have joint custody.
2007-06-17 10:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is good! I went to this party in Arizona where we were having midget throwing contests, it rocked! It has nothing to do with your problem, but it brings back good memories for me!
Honestly though, I think you need to explain the situation to your son in the sense of what it must be like for the midget. Who knows, maybe your son can step up and be the bigger man...although in this case that won't be so hard! Amaste...
2007-06-17 10:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by Double J - Jonni Jigolo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how would ur son feel if u were d midget?would he make fun of u? or love u for u?u should ask him that,people can make fun if they want,d most important thing is d ex loves him.
2007-06-17 10:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by sarah a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say how tall? I am 4 11. my parents and grandparents weren't very tall. your wife married a short man? is that right? a little confused here. all I can think of is to tell your son to stop he is hurting his mother's feelings. all you can do is keep telling him to stop. or give him a punishment: no tv for 30 min. or no video games for 30 min. each time he doesn't say something nice. tell him when he says something nice then he can have it back. 30 minutes is long enough for punishment. but yes, looks like punishment is the only thing he might listen to.
2007-06-17 10:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a very firm talk with your son. You're the only one who can do it. As well, your ex should be involved in the conversation too.
2007-06-17 10:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋