Wives, what would you do.?

Question

If your husband is rarely at home...sleeps in a separate bed...is either working, out with mates, or staying overnight at his country property by himself? He does not try to make excuses anymore and simply says to you.."you know the score, you know I dont love you". He knows that if he leaves, you will kill yourself, so stays because he couldnt live with the guilt. What makes a wife threaten these things when she knows her husband does not love her, does not want to spend any time with her and is always out somewhere. I really need to understand why a wife would expect her husband to stay where he obviously doesnt want to be.....what would be going through her mind? Could there be something mentally wrong with her?

Answer 1

Yes something is definatly wrong with her.She does not love her Get it through her head it's not even fair to him that he's stuck with her when he has a true love some where out there.SHe's putting 2 much preasure on him.SHe also needs to get consuling i may be pretty younf and not married but i'm pretty dam smart so
what's goin through her mind might be some pretty ****** up stuff

Answer 2

YOU most definitely are the other woman here. The way you have written it does not sound like you are the wife at all.

If this man is staying married and sleeping with you and saying that his wife will kill herself if he leaves, he is just having his cake and eating it too.

As for the reason the wife stays, I would bet money she is used to be supported by him and would hold on to that no matter what and will say or do anything to continue it. She probably has something going on on the side as well.

So why are you going with the Married Man? What makes you settle for only part of a relationship?

Answer 3

I WAS a wife in this exact scenario. She needs to divorce him and move on. Why should she stay in a relationship where she is not happy. And why would she kill herself over a man that does not care a flying flip about her and who tells her to her face that her doesn;t love her..My ex-husband would stay out all the time and we would not have sex anymore and would not do anything to foster of relationship as husband and wife. He didn't even show up to the court house for the divorce.I took me seeing him at the other woman's house for me to say enough is enough..LEAVE HIM PLEASE..you will meet someone else that will love you..I did...you will too..I f need be go and talk to someone to help you get some self love and self confidence. You must not let anyone emotionally abouse you..

Answer 4

Not "could there be" but there is something wrong with her. Especially if she threatens suicide if he leaves. They are basically divorced already, they just haven't made it official by filing paperwork. He can start the procedings if he wants out, he doesn't need her permission. It just make the divorce contested rather than uncontested. By the angle of the question, I'm guessing your the unfortunate girlfriend being told this story by a married man. Also, unfortunate for you, there is the wifes side that you are not hearing.

Answer 5

Anyone using suicide as a means of emotional blackmail has something mentally wrong and probably needs therapy and meds.

Personally, I believe anyone who really wants to commit suicide just does it and anyone claiming or threatening suicide is seeking help or attention and really has no desire to die.

My grandmother committed suicide and my mother tried to. Neither told anyone of their plans. The only reason my mother lived is because she was found, almost dead, by a friend that showed up out of the blue. People who are serious about suicide rarely act the way this woman is.

Tell the husband to leave. His wife's emotional games and problems aren't his responsibility. They are hers. I doubt she will go through with her threats, but if she does it was her choice and not because of him.

My ex husband played this game with me when I left. I tossed him a package of razorblades and left the house anyway. He is now remarried and living in another state.

Answer 6

Just because he decided not to love you, doesn't mean you decided the same thing. When some one doesn't want you , it makes you insecure and makes you want them more. Give him the same treatment. Get busy and find something else to do with your time, besides sitting around pineing for him. Become distant and unconcerned. Don't call him, don't ask around about him. You haven't accepted the reality of your plight yet. Just keep remembering how he is treating you. You have to find something else to do, cause sounds like you are wasting your time with him.

Answer 7

I have one question for you. Are you the other woman? It sounds to me like he has relayed what's going on at home to somebody. Why would he do that? So somebody feels sorry for him? How do you know it's true? Give me a break. Staying because she threatened suicide? Is she in counseling? This all sounds to me like somdbody looking for an excuse to have an affair. And I'll bet he's already involved in one.

Answer 8

Its just desperation to hang onto what little bit of control she has left in her life. She wants to portray an image of a happy couple at all costs, even her dignity. This need may be due to the way she was raised and the relationship between her parents.

Answer 9

yes there is something wrong with her. if he doesnt love her she should go!!!! you CAN NOT make someone love you. You just cant. and she is keeping both of them trapped in bad situation. her threats may work now but when and if he does fall in love he wont care about that and leave to be happy.

Answer 10

Could there be??? anyone that unhappy to threaten that should get out he is not stayin because of guilt but because of the financial loss he will get and tryin to get her to file for divorce check the pre-nup if there is one.... oh and he's a ****ing s***, waste of space is what he is