ok so im going to high school next year ... thats grade 9 where i live. and im afraid ill be a loner because not manuy people in my school liked me in junior years & now people will make fun of me and hurt me and may even pound me .. how do you become popular and avoid drama? but have lots of friends at the same time :(:( sorry i just scared
2007-06-17 09:56:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
High school is soo different then jr high! don't be scared, you just need to learn that it is OK to say Hey! my name is Mercedes. you'll do fine.
2007-06-17 10:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, be yourself is classic advice that usually works very well. Don't try to be interested in something that you aren't just to be cool, but don't look down on people with different interests and skills than you. It takes all kinds to make a world.
Explore teams and extra curric activities to do what you love, not just the cool thing...if you LOVE cheerleading try out for the squad. If you just want to be a cheerleader because they are popular, don't try out, why? Because if you don't enjoy the sport, you automatically don't fit the activity, or the people involved with it...and if they are just cheering because they want to be popular, why would you hang with a poser?
So anyway, do what you love and you will be joined by people who also love doing that, and then you will have a partner in crime for a good long time. That's plenty of people to like you as yourself, you don't need to have everyone thinking you are the best thing ever.
Last word is don't let anyone tell you that academics aren't cool. Classes and studying are important and high school paves the way for college, or a great job later. Please pay attention to your grades and your academic performance. Then 20 years from now, you can go to your high school reunion...being able to say that you are happy, secure, and successful. (Translation: bling, car, plastic, and a happy partner...that is very cool.)
2007-06-17 10:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was in grade school and junior high people made fun of me and bothered me..
In HS that changed i made friends. I joined a club-the drama club and met alot of people,., try joining a club,, keep away from bad kids, troublemakers, their the ones who cause drama..
Dont make friends with the older kids, they tend to pick on and have more mature minds than the kids your age,
stay in your own age group...
Make sure you dress and look nice with the latest fashions in a subtle way for a girl your age,, people want to be friends with a girl who dresses nice..
good luck dont worry. be yourself, i only had 4 friends in HS, i wasnt in the popular crowd but who cares as long as you have a good group of friends.. College is more important anyway..
2007-06-17 10:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jetglam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself!!! If people don't like you for who you are then they aren't worth your time. The ones who aren't popular are better people anyway. You will grow up to be successful and most likely what is dorky now will turn into beauty. Think of it, when you go to your ten year reunion the popular will be ugly fat and miserable and driving a cab in NYC. How cool is that?
That is what happened when I went to my ten year reunion.
2007-06-17 10:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mary M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one tip that i have for you. Stay true to yourself. You do not need to be popular it is so overrated, and it even drew me away from who i really was, i became fake and left my best friends.... then one day i woke up and realized that it wasn't what i wanted... i left all the fake people and my friends took me back, and then Rachel came yay. Just be you and you will be fine, find at least one good friend and it won't be that rough.
2007-06-17 10:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to become popular?
Just find people who are like yourself, and make friends with them... i'm sure you'll be fine.. try not to worry too much about it
and remember:
treat others as you want to be treated =]
2007-06-17 10:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making friends with kids in the higher grades. The older friends won't let your immature classmates harass you.
2007-06-17 09:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kris J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't conform to be popular, be yourself. You ow that to yourself. Don't sacrifice who you are to be popular and fit in with the crowd be your own self. Be nice and friendly and you'll do fine.
Just be yourself
2007-06-17 10:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to be the most popular girl in school....just choose some good friends who have ur back
2007-06-17 09:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all its high scool ull never avoid drama. (not tryin to scare u) believe me i was a freshman dis year. but be yourself ull find a group of friends who will accept you as u r.
2007-06-17 10:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋